Some estranged adult children go no contact because they say their parents are too critical. Has your adult child made this complaint? Are you frustrated because you just don't see what they're seeing? Does it seem like your adult child is too sensitive, and you're walking on eggshells because you never know what's going to make them feel criticize…

In this episode, Registered Clinical Counselling-Hypnotherapist Kemila Zsange Travels to Canada's Newest National Park in Saskatchewan: Grasslands National Park, and answers this age-old question "Is Hypnosis Mind Control" with:- No. Hypnosis is not mind control, and - Yes. Hypnosis is mind control. And it's a good thing. In addition, Kemila uses a…

TRANSCRIPT: These are uncertain times for those of us who create and freely share content via the Internet. I mentioned on the podcast earlier this year that I needed some time to assess the impact of all the changes happening in the world of digital information, including the widespread, unregulated use of AI. At that time, I removed the show from…

Should parents apologize to adult children for mistakes they made in the past? What if those adult children aren't talking to them? What if the adult child hasn't asked for an apology? What if the parent doesn't know what to apologize for? It turns out that apologies from parents to adult children are a rather complicated affair. Somehow, parents h…

“Reversing an unwanted estrangement is, in a very particular way, exactly like swimming the English Channel.” So begins this perspective-shifting episode in which Tina urges parents to prepare for reconnection the way swimmers prepare for a long-distance swim. Reaching out to your child, whether with an apology, a request for a talk, or an offer to…

How do you set boundaries with estranged adult children, without making them mad? That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’ll hear the original recording in which Tina offers her thoughts on setting boundaries with an adult child who's using …

In this episode, Kemila answers the question if "something inherently wrong in my brain that’s just keeping me stuck". Here are some links that are mentioned in the video: That "big, eye-opening session" that Jeny mentioned is a 4-hour hypnosis intensive session: https://kemilahypnosis.com/intensive/ The product of Letting Abundance Flow was made a…

An unwanted estrangement from an adult child is a reason many parents seek some kind of counseling. Some go to therapy for the first time when their relationship with their adult child(ren) breaks down. Good therapy provides emotional support and often leads to insight. But truly successful therapy leads to profound and permanent changes through th…

Starting with the very general question, "How does hypnotherapy work?" Kemila uses the analogy of journeys to illustrate how it's about a journey inside. She uses some client examples to explain how the inner journey is a rich, rewarding experience. Kemila still sees private clients. Contact Kemila. Start your inner journey today: https://kemilahyp…

Should you always obey a no-contact request from your estranged adult child(ren)? The short answer is yes. But short answers aren’t always right for every situation. Each estrangement is unique. On the face of it, the question of whether to obey a no-contact request is a tactical one. But tactics rely on strategy. And when it comes to an unwanted e…

Why did your estranged adult child tell someone you were toxic, yet send a nice card for your birthday? Why do they keeping saying they need space, yet respond to everything you send with a heart emoji? Or, Why don’t they ever respond, when they said it was okay for you to contact them? Questions like those leave unwillingly estranged parents feeli…

Is it wrong for parents to hope their adult children might show a little care, interest or concern for them? Is it really asking too much of adult children to simply ask, “How are you, Dad (or Mom)?” That was the question Tina addressed on a group Q&A call back in 2019. And it’s no less relevant today than it was at the time. In this episode, you’l…

In this Episode, Kemila answers a question on hypnotizability and how a 4-hour hypnotherapy session is about. https://kemilahypnosis.com/intensive/Episode 28, filmed in Cabo San Lucas Mexico, there was some cactus as well: https://youtu.be/mGNpZ8gq9lM?si=1pFhYqv7-xBEaVu3--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an …

Is your estranged adult child a narcissist? Probably not. But they might still exhibit some narcissistic traits – just like the rest of us. In the interest of bringing compassion and understanding to the highly emotional topic of estrangement, Tina outlines the difference in this episode between “normal” narcissism and the clinical version, Narciss…

Emotional pain is part of the human condition. And it's almost a guarantee for parents whose adult children aren't speaking to them. Unwanted estrangement is one of the most painful things that can happen to a parent. How do you manage your emotions when your own child won't talk to you? It might seem like you have to wait for them to come around b…

There are many times during an estrangement from your adult child(ren) when you just don’t know what to do. Sometimes there’s a situation that seems to call for a decision – such as when a family member falls ill or passes away. Other times it’s a growing sense of frustration or despair that pushes for action. But because there’s no generic bluepri…

In this episode made in February, the month of Valentine's, Kemila Zsange answers the question that hypnotherapy CAN work with couple relationships. https://kemilahypnosis.com/relationship-enhancement-through-counselling-and-hypnotherapy/--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an one-time donation--Video at Youtu…

Life is full of paradoxes. For example... The busier we are, the more easily we can handle an extra task. The more we demand respect, the less respect we seem to get. The more love we give, the more we have left in our hearts. And while everyone has to deal with paradoxes in life, parents of estranged adult children live with specific contradictory…

Life is full of paradoxes… The busier we are, the more easily we can handle an extra task. The more we demand respect, the less respect we seem to get. The more love we give, the more we have left in our hearts. And while everyone has to deal with paradoxes in life, parents of estranged adult children live with specific contradictory truths that of…

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Safety can be physical – such as being safe inside during a storm – or emotional. In this important episode, Tina explains why “emotional safety” is more than a buzzword, and why unwillingly estranged parents benefit from understanding and embracing the concept. Emotional safety is important in close relationships. But for parents living without su…

In this episode, Kemila Zsange answered the question from Miranda: Can you work with Spirit release remotely in hypnosis? And many of her follow-up questions. https://kemilahypnosis.com/past-life-regression/spirit-attachment-release/--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an one-time donation--Video at Youtube: h…

Why is it so hard to be consistent in how you think or feel during estrangement from your adult child(ren)? Why does your heart sometimes ache for your adult child, and other times feel only frustrated and hurt? For some parents, there’s a quiet but persistent inner conflict between personal growth and repairing an estranged relationship. Those par…

Following on from RC Podcast Episode 160 (see episode links below), Tina tackles two more cognitive distortions, or mental mistakes, that can make an unwanted estrangement feel even worse than it already does. In this equally eye-opening episode, Tina offers multiple examples of overgeneralizing and catastrophizing in the context of estrangement fr…

Starting from a psychologist client's quest for a soul connection through Past Life Regression, Kemila discusses how past life regression can help with this lifetime's choices and decisions and how we can broaden our perspectives through the whole story of the soul's journey. www.kemilahypnosis.comwww.carolslives.com--Support podtube.me continuity …

For millions of people around the world who celebrate Christmas* – including parents unwillingly estranged from their own adult children and grandchildren – “the most wonderful time of the year” can also be one of the least wonderful times. In this special Christmas episode for parents of estranged adult children, Tina normalizes emotional pain dur…

Parents of estranged adult children may feel – and believe – that estrangement is an emergency requiring immediate action on their part. It’s as though they stand to lose their adult child(ren) forever if they don’t do something about it right now. No wonder it feels like an emergency! And if those parents don’t know what to do, or if everything th…

These things are true about estrangement support on the internet: 1. Many estranged adult children’s forums contain mean-spirited remarks about rejected parents. 2. Many rejected parents’ forums contain mean-spirited remarks about estranged adult children. 3. Mean-spirited remarks don’t heal the pain of estrangement on either side. True support, in…

When your own adult child cuts you off, it can be deeply hurtful. And part of the reason for that pain is what it feels like their estrangement means. Many rejected parents believe it’s their personal flaws that prompted their adult children to create distance. They think that because they’ll never be perfect, there’s nothing they can do to repair …

It’s common for parents to believe that the “punishment” of estrangement is supposed to fit the “crime” – whatever it may be – to which their adult child is holding them accountable by keeping their distance. This idea that the length or perceived severity of estrangement correlates exclusively to an injury or injuries suffered by the adult child i…

In the video, Kemila describes the ins and outs, pros and cons of doing hypnotherapy online. The previous video from Oak Bay Victoria, Episode 18, can be found at this link: https://youtu.be/HiB5KNuzPCI?si=ES4B4D-5EbltJT1Vwww.kemilahypnosis.com--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an one-time donation--Video at…

What are parents supposed to do when estranged adult children leave their belongings at home? That’s a tricky question. There isn’t just one right answer that will fit for every family. When you’re storing the belongings of someone who’s not talking to you, you’re in a difficult position – both logistically and emotionally. How do you decide what t…

Estrangement from family is a kind of ambiguous loss. But some of the losses that are often associated with estrangement are definitive. They can be grieved. For parents who are unwillingly estranged from their adult children, there are at least five potential, definitive losses they might sustain during estrangement. Tina walks listeners through t…

In this Episode, Kemila Zsange, a clinic counselling hypnotherapist, answers the questions from Chris: - Can a review of past lives reveal events or patterns that contribute to phobias or unusual obsessions in this life? - If so, can knowing about the causes be helpful in this life?www.kemilahypnosis.comwww.carolslives.com--Support podtube.me conti…

Some parents of estranged adult children beat themselves up for parenting “mistakes” they couldn’t possibly have avoided. Others blame their children for being difficult, ungrateful or too sensitive. What’s missing from these simplistic assignments of blame for estrangement? Context. According to Tina, context is very often overlooked to the detrim…

Some parents experiencing estrangement from their adult children have known estrangement before. Not necessarily from other people, but within themselves. Self-alienation is a kind of internal estrangement that has become almost normal in our culture. With so much information available and so much to do, we're not always fully present. We lose touc…

Estrangement from family, like everything else, takes place against the psychological backdrop of human development. Far from ending in adulthood, development continues throughout the lifespan, and offers hope for change in any given week, month or year of our lives. In this interesting episode, Tina takes listeners on a brief tour of the concept o…

From the South Island of New Zealand, Kemila answered another hypnotherapist's question on the physiological responses after a hypnotherapy session. Episode 20 can be found here: https://youtu.be/9PVJBGjD3xM www.kemilahypnosis.comwww.carolslives.com--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an one-time donation--Vid…

If your adult child is not responding to texts, emails or any attempts at contact, at some point you might begin to worry about the time that’s passing during estrangement. This could happen for a couple of reasons… One frightening thought is that the longer adult child(ren) are estranged, the harder it will be to reconnect. That’s an understandabl…

In this special two-part episode of the podcast, Tina reads a letter she received from an estranged adult child whose estrangement story began with childhood enmeshment. You’ll learn about enmeshment’s impacts on children, and why those impacts are sometimes invisible to even loving, conscientious parents. Listeners may gain clarity about their own…

On this special two-part episode of the podcast, Tina reads a letter she received from an estranged adult child whose estrangement story began with childhood enmeshment. You’ll learn about enmeshment’s impacts on children, and why those impacts are sometimes invisible to even loving, conscientious parents. Listeners may gain clarity about their own…

Parents of estranged adult children often carry unhealed emotional wounds from long ago. The pain of those wounds can be reactivated when adult children become estranged, especially if original injuries involved separation, loss, rejection or abandonment. For those parents, the injury of unwanted estrangement brings back the pain of old trauma (wit…

Many parents exhaust themselves trying in vain to reconnect with their estranged adult child or children. While some keep struggling to come up with new things to try, others succumb to despair and begin to believe the situation is hopeless. In both cases, the question may arise: When is the right time to stop trying? This is one of the saddest que…

Breathe through your nose if you can. Make your exhale longer than your inhale. Slow down and deepen your breathing. All of those are simple, accessible ways to calm an upset nervous system. Controlled breathing is one of the oldest and most effective methods to combat stress over time. For parents unwillingly estranged from adult children and gran…

At the beginning of February, the month of Valentine, Kemila answered a question from someone who was heartbroken and wanted to erase his ex-partner from his mind. As mentioned in this episode, here's Kemila's participation interview video at Anne Margaret's Heart Break Recovery: https://youtu.be/v8DtFhweFr8. www.kemilahypnosis.comwww.carolslives.c…

NOTE: In offering a list of stress-reduction practices, Tina refers to both the third and fourth items as "Number Three." Please don't be distracted by the misnumbering; there are five separate items in the list. Many parents of estranged adult children know the pain of a broken heart. But for some, Broken Heart Syndrome becomes a medical crisis. A…

It may feel wrong to use words like “strategy” and “tactics” when talking about personal relationships. But healing from family estrangement, especially for parents unwillingly estranged from their adult children, often requires strategic thinking. Tina points out that “strategy” is simply a word for having a plan. Tactics are the “how” of any stra…

Some parents of estranged adult children may already be familiar with the serenity prayer, popularized by AA and other 12-step groups: "God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." Knowing when to take action and when to stand down is helpful in gently movin…

As soon as they realize their adult child or children are estranged, most parents will try to reestablish a connection as quickly as possible. And while it’s only natural to do so, racing to reconnect can lead to wasted time and energy — and sadly, needless extra suffering. In this short but vital episode, Tina explains why the process of genuine r…

In this episode, Kemila describes mechanically and energetically how depression works, with a historic example of Giordano Bruno. www.kemilahypnosis.com--Support podtube.me continuity as a free service. Become a Patreon or make an one-time donation--Video at Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXlyklVmuN8…