After a week or two of being engrossed in my work projects my partner asked me how I had been feeling about our relationship. This lead to a discussion about our different "appetites" for relationship and we both sought to understand one another more instead of argue over who was right / wrong / who needed to change, etc. We distilled the 3 things …

I have struggled to know how to best guide myself to sexual well-being. Indulgence, or self restraint in the name of being "good". That false dichotomy split when I realized there was no top-down rule that I could apply to know how I should behave, instead, drawing much inspiration from mindfulness practices, I have learened to simply check-in with…

In many episodes I have shared information on the mechanisms of addiction - so you're better equipped to face it. We have spent time looking closely at things like dopamine, habituation, and self-discipline. (Dr. Anna Lembke & Dr. Daniel Lieberman) I have for a long time pointed to these topics when sharing about my journey with sex/pornography add…

5 reasons I don't watch porn (even when I want to) 1. It makes sex about dopamine chasing 2. Real sex is better and it kills that 3. Habituation is dog shit 4. It reinforces a style of sex that I am trying to unlearn 5. It's mostly disembodied consumption for me, and I'm asking what purpose I want sex to serve in my life? ----------------- Here is …

This is one of the most important distinctions I have found on my way out of darkness of sex addiction. Even when I felt NOTHING during sex.. I constantly chased it down and organized my life around it. Why? Here's an AI summary of my episode: Ever wondered why some addictions feel impossible to break? Join me, Braxton Gilbert, as I uncover the sur…

I am practicing approaching sex from a totally different intention. In the past, sex has been all about entertainment, and chasing down an orgasm. However, a few episodes ago Alexey Walsh shared with me a different model for engaging with sex, one that aims at saturation instead of "completion". I am learning to saturate in the of emotional substan…

In this video, I share 4 themes of pornography and sex addiction that upon noticing them have really helped me in my personal growth. I hope that by sharing these discovers they may help you too! Four distinct themes of porn and sex addiction: 1. I can't catch anticipation (they feeling I was after) 2. After years of misuse, I became reliant on my …

Have you ever stood at the crossroads of temptation and discipline, feeling the magnetic pull of instant gratification? This episode is about conquering that battle, as I share my intimate journey away from the grasp of pornography and towards a more profound understanding of sexual connection. The allure of fantasy had me chasing an unattainable h…

In my life, I am learning so much about how honest dialogue involves conflict. I am learning to not run from conflict, but rather use its presence in my life as an indicator that I am doing something right. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ BraxtongilbertAv Braxton Gilbert

Discover the hidden threads connecting pleasure, pain, and our coping strategies as we dissect the pleasure-pain balance in an awesome conversation with Anna Lembke! Anna is Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic at Stanford University and a New York Times best selling author! (And a super kind and lovely person) She teaches…

This episode, alongside seasoned professional in conscious sexuality Alexey Welsh, brings to light the deeper dimensions of love and connection through the lens of sexual awakening. We navigate the waters of societal norms and personal barriers, uncovering how shifting our approach to sex from excitement and pleasure to nourishment and presence can…

Dive deep into the heart of self-awareness and relationship dynamics with us, as we unravel the enigma that is narcissism and its influence on personal boundaries. Our conversation journeys through the tricky terrain of human behavior, as we dissect the spectrum of narcissistic traits—from those that can be healthy and self-preserving to the toxic …

This episode is a raw and intimate journey into the heart of addiction and the power of recovery. Courtney bravely shares her harrowing battle with opiate and meth addiction, we peel back the layers of this often misunderstood and stigmatized condition. We discuss the paradox of seeking comfort in the very thing that hurts us and the incredible tra…

Imagine a world where gender roles are not just inverted but transcended, where the value of women is celebrated beyond sexualization, and where the dance of masculine and feminine energies is a harmony, not a hierarchy. Angel de Santas joins us to navigate through this nuanced terrain, dismantling the cultural constructs that have long oppressed w…

From a crack & heroin fueled madness to spiritual well-being and entrepreneurial success.. Khalil's story is insane and I was so excited to get to hand with him for this episode! AI summary: Imagine hitting rock bottom, lost in the grip of addiction, only to rise again with a story so compelling it could fill volumes. Our guest, Khalil Rafati, has …

Struggling with the facade of emotional performance, I found myself yearning to break free from the shackles of others' expectations. It's a journey I share openly in this episode, as Heidi Priebe's guidance on emotional intelligence illuminates a path to living unrehearsed and embracing the full spectrum of our emotions. We delve into the exhausti…

When Angel DeSantis recounts her escape from the Children of God cult, her story isn't just a chronicle of survival; it's a beacon of transformation for anyone seeking to reclaim their life from the shadows of oppression. Our latest podcast episode is a riveting narrative of Angel's ascent from a world where free thought was shackled by doctrine to…

Get ready for a captivating conversation with our fascinating guest, Dr. Chris Donoghue He is the director of Clinical Education at the Sexual Health Alliance, an internationally lecturer on human sexuality, author, and sex therapist. Ever wondered how societal norms shape our views on sex? We're peeling back the layers on sex positivity, body posi…

Dive into the fascinating world of personality types as we sit down with Caitlin Hawekotte, a certified Myers-Briggs type indicator practitioner. We'll unravel the intricacies of the Myers-Briggs assessment, exploring the four-letter type code and its dynamic components that influence how we interact and perceive the world. You'll uncover the power…

If this episode doesn't make you a Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, and an Atheist in one punch.. you may be too deep in the matrix. Thomas Moore is a former Monk. He spent nearly 30 years a jungian clinical psychologist. He's written over 20 books including two of my personal favorites: Care of the Soul, and A Religion of One's Own ... and he's this we…

So many of us are caught in endless cycles of validation seeking that destroy our ability to show up to life in a way that truly connects and uplifts others, ourself included. Jordan and I discuss the inner mechanisms of work addiction, the role we play in our partner's personal evolution, and how we can HONOR committed romantic partnerships. This …

In today's episode I talk with @PornBrainRewireDrTrishLeigh about the ins and outs of porn addiction and sex addiction. I share my personal journey through the confusing maze of reconnecting with sexuality, and she shares clinical insights from her work with patients in her office, and around the country. Together we give you the cheat codes to tak…

Years ago I read a book called "The Molecule of More" by Dr. Daniel Z Lieberman. By reading his simple explanations of dopamine I gained clarity into human behavior that felt like a damn baptism into Buddhahood. I reached out many times to get him on the show, and just FOR YOU he agreed to do it. Please enjoy my awesome conversation with Dr. Daniel…

What does it mean to be a leader in today's world? Does it mean embodying the hard power persona, or does it revolve around the values of soft power - accountability and responsibility? We explore these thought-provoking questions in an insightful discussion with Larry Hagner from The Dad Edge. Larry shares his compelling views on leadership, bring…

Indoctrination sucks. In this episode you will get a chance to look at ways that you can untangle and heal from being taught to belief without criticism! Thanks to Trevor Poetman for the YouTube channel and podcast "Belief It or Not" for joining me. Because God said so! ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ B…

Today I talked with Mason Sawyer, a young man who tragically lost nearly his entire family in a single day. We discussed the meaning of pain, and the role of purpose in our life. What an incredibly meaningful discussion this was. Mason Sawyer IG: https://instagram.com/masonsawyer91?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== 1090 Project IG: https://instagram.com/10ni…

Addictions are challenging, they're like a parasite that robs you of your natural desires and ability to satisfy those desires and instead replace them with an insatiable craving for more and more and more. Humans are fit for that kind of endless pursuit. Addicts live a life of endless chasing with little to no satiation. Torture. Here are the thre…

Ever found yourself stuck in the same patterns, wondering how and why you keep winding up in the same place? That's where my friend Chris Jacchio and I find ourselves in a profound conversation about conscious and unconscious behaviors. We ponder the power of our formative years, the societal programming we unconsciously follow, and how ancestral w…

Clear up confusion about addiction by asking "What do I need right now?" This increased understanding of your REAL needs and can slowly allow you to start getting what you need. Which is the goal anyways. (here's what ChatGPT says this episode is about...) What if the most potent, pleasurable sexual experiences you could possibly have, lie on the o…

Are you love avoidant? Do you self-regulate your emotional state with solo practice like binge eating/watching, constant social media addiction, food/porn indulgence, etc? Do you want to see your relationship as a safe space to feel and just BE? Well, join today's conversation with my love Lauren as we unpack my l love avoidant / workaholic behavio…

Ever wonder why you're not feeling a deep emotional connection with your partner? Or why you instantly reach for the remote, phone, or a bag of chips when you're feeling down? Today's episode is all about confronting these issues head-on, exploring the barriers we unconsciously construct that prevent us from truly experiencing emotional intimacy. W…

Having boundaries into your relationships with others is THE foundation of healthy relationships. But what happens when someone crosses your boundaries? What are some practical ways we can respond with kindness and strength? Today, we talk about how to enforce standards in relationships with those people we can most about! ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episo…

Listing the boundaries and expectations you have for your relationships couldn't be more important. But if the prep work stops there, you may find yourself with some weak "wishes" as opposed to strong limits. Today, we learn an exercise that will ensure our boundaries are strong barriers to mistreatment. This is key for everyone! 0:00-6:32 Intro 6:…

Guys, here are the 6 fundamental boundaries that exist between two people in a healthy relationship: 1. Emotional Boundaries - Your problems are not my problems. 2. Money - My money is not yours. 3. Time - Time is money. (See #2) 4. Intellectual - We can have different viewpoints. 5. Physical - Personal space is a thing. 6. Sexual - Enthusiastic co…

Ever find yourself saying 'yes' when you really mean 'no'? What if that small two-letter word 'no', could be the key to unlocking healthier, more authentic relationships? That's what we're diving into today. The power of 'no' is often underestimated and misinterpreted. It’s not about asserting dominance but staying true to yourself and encouraging …

Can you remember the boundless optimism, love, and sense of purpose you felt as a child? As we grow up, sometimes those qualities get overshadowed by the harsh realities of life, and we may find ourselves questioning if we've grown up the "right" way. Join me in this heartfelt episode as I share my personal journey from a youthful dreamer to a hard…

I recently had a transformative MDMA experience, allowing me to confront the pain, discomfort, and frustration I've felt due to sexual repression. In our honest and vulnerable conversation, we explore how this journey led to powerful self-discovery and healing. Please remember that I always take extreme precautions when it comes to substances, and …

The art of working hard, patiently & properly. Why are we here? Todays episode could help you lose the weight, build the business, make the money, whatever you current goal is.. by helping you be more aware of a little mistake most of us make when we try and tackle new goals! Most of the times when we want to change something, we hyper fixate, get …

Last week I talked about quitting porn, and how all easy access forms of dopamine can wreak havoc on your life when you are trying to be responsible, driven, and disciplined. We talked about how dopamine is like an Easter egg with a reward inside and how life is structured in a way that natural rewards (or Easter eggs) are hidden behind things that…

Today I want to talk about why I am officially stopping watching pornography, and more broadly about any and all forms of easy-access dopamine and how it can reel havoc in your life when it comes to trying to stay disciplined, organized, and responsible. Dopamine is like an Easter egg. Running around, climbing up trees, looking in bushes are all di…

I lost my drive for work, and pretty much decided that the whole “work guy thing” was not what I wanted to be. Now, after taking some time away, I have achieved a clarity that has allowed me to see how I didn’t lose my drive for work, I was just using a fuel-source that was a dedicate old, and it was time for a recalibration. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this ep…

This week has been so tough for me. I have felt the URGES to go and get back on the workaholic / sex-addict train. However, I have felt so much love and presence with my relationship, family, hobbies. But there is a part of me that feels like LIFE SUCKS without the RUSH baby. It’s honestly been really hard to stay the course. One main reason is bec…

I have been on a journey for a couple years now to recalibrate myself to a lifestyle that not only gives me the work projects I love doing, but also cares for my soul. I am on the tail end of the initial recovery process, and want to share with you the 5 ways I have been working DIFFERENTLY - and loving it. I am finally starting to feel like I am a…

My priorities have begun shifting, and I'd love to bring you along for the ride. Me and Lauren just got back from a WHOLE MONTH living in New York City! In this episode, I recount some of the lessons I learned about my relationship to work, peace, and love. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert…

Wow. I have been learning so much about my relationship with sex. Lauren has too, and in this episode, we talk about what that has meant not just for us individually, but as partners. Watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7XfKLztRuo This episode is not graphic. Time codes!! 0:00-5:29 Intro 5:30-6:59 Always been something missing 7:00…

Do you think social media has a negative or positive effect on you as an individual? What about the effects it has on society? This episode we discuss these topics and begin to peer down some rather grim perspectives on social media. Enjoy. Listen to Let's Keep Talking on Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Google podcasts. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and …

The story of Christ. For Drake it's a reality, the truth! For me, it's a reminder of compassion and love, an inspiration to BE LIKE Jesus.. Not a recounting of fact.. What is the story of Jesus, for you? ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ Braxtongilbert

It is inhumane the oppression that has lasted the last 42 years in Iran. However, brave women (and men) are fighting back. Here I talk with Beth, a Iranian born citizen about the travesties occurring, and the blood that is being shed in the name of human rights. Please listen with a tender heart. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Yout…

We are not here to shit on Mr. Brian Johnson. Just his apology. In this short episode we use the liver king apology video as inspiration to break down the ways that people manipulate tone & words to deceive people. Watch episode on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K4ZMX-e-dzc&t=755s ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube ch…

Today I am joined by a good friend of mine, Marcus Neto, as we discuss business motivators, relationship dynamics, and learning vulnerability. This one is a treat for sure. ⬇️ ⬇️ ⬇️ Watch this episode and many more on my Youtube channel! 👀 Instagram/ BraxtongilbertAv Braxton Gilbert