Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice. We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there…

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of …

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before! Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain…

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46…

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 ch…

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone. Segm…

Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people. Segments: 3:07 - Accountability Corner 6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now 18:55 - Future HHS Regulation …

Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area. Segments: 4:44 - Accountability Corner 8:54 - Word of …

This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time. Segments: 3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables 8:03 - Kinky Craft Time! 14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables 26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips 40:29 - Patreon Message 43:27 - …

This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually …

This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like. What would it mean for all people to live, express, and love free from shame and the threat of violence? How can we work in solidarity with all marginalized people of intersecting identities to build a future of mutu…

This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals. Segments: 5:4…

This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play.…

Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like. Segments: 4:44 - Word of the Show, Transmedicalism 32:09 - Patreon Message 35:12 - Medical Model Recap 39:18 -…

Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partn…

Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizing Segments: 8:22 - Word of the Show (Pathologize) 34:59 - Patreon Message 36:48 - A Quick History of Trans…

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind). Segments: 2:33 Word of the Show, Dungeon Master 19:07 Patreon Message 20:21 Sensory Deprivation Intr…

Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2…

This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice. Read along here: https://medium.com/@QSE/protecting-transgender-people-is-not-a-political-choice-c5c2187f3773 QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding <3 You can send your questions to queerse…

Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019. QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you…

Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about making mistakes. Also we look forward to think about our intentions for the next year. Join us, and maybe ask yourself or your partner(s) who listen these same questions: What things are you celebrating…

This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual. Show links: https://crashpadseries.com/queer-porn/queer-porn-meets-sex-ed-in-crashpads-guide-to-fisting/ http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2017/5/31/queer-sex-ed…

Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, …

This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do. Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions. This episode was made possible by the University of Colorado's Ace&Aro Stud…

Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more. Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gma…

Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone. "Voting is important work. If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters. However, I also need you to understand that the reasons pe…

Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn! We talk about the recent attacks on the trans community by the Trump Administration as well as different types of gerrymandering, types of voter suppression, the importa…

Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things. Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy,…

Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe. Useful links: https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamorywithoutrules.html https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us t…

Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!Av Queer Sex Ed Podcast

Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be back in a few weeks, thank you for understanding. Full episodes available here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bcQC0QCVSl0vOlly0zXgQ?si=bl-Wchy_RWeiapwS273uOg https://open.spotify.com/episode/45LS…

QSE is on a short hiatus while Sara recovers from surgery, so we wanted to share this episode of Sara's new podcast in the feed for folks who haven't had a chance to listen yet. This new show was made possible by your generous Patreon subscriptions! Thank you for your support of QSE and we hope to be back soon.…

Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their legal structures, America's history, and our current legal climate. You can read-along with the article here: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-time-for-never-again-has-passed-americans-are-complicit-in-genocid…

Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all. Show links: http://titleknown.tumblr.com/post/122715038542/cactuswrens-bad-dr…

This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies. Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more! You can send …

Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE. Show links: http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/ https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg…

Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important ep…

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people. Show links: https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320 https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG https://w…

Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education i…

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealin…

Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more. You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mi…

Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at queersexed@gmail.com. Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education group…

JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia. Content warning for discussions of transmisogyny, violence against trans people, and queerphobia Read along at https://medium.com/@QSE/w…

This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives. For more on the FRC from Brynn Tannehill: https://www.huff…

Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on futu…

Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from. In preparation for our next episode about comprehensive sex ed, we wanted to share the a…

Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted reproductive technologies) from a trans-focused and queer-focused perspective. http://sistersong.net/reproductive-justice/ https://forwardtogether.org/ Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com f…

This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your partner, and some STI facts you probably never learned in school. CDC GYT materials: https://www.cdc.gov/std/sam/ More info: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/planned-parenthood-std-awareness-videos-get-…

Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out and finding community later in life, healing polyamory trauma, and shifting how we teach sex ed. Resources discussed: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html Please send your questions to qu…

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolution, and talk about the difference between active and passive communication. Also discussed: cheating, heteronormative scripts, and emotional labor. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com…