Hey Doc — When did the holidays turn into one big chaotic to-do list? Between last-minute gift runs, boundary-testing relatives, and the annual matching pajama scramble… it’s a lot. This episode is your permission slip to opt out. The stress isn’t tradition. The chaos isn’t required. And next year doesn’t have to feel like this one, because holiday…

Hey Doc, Headed into a holiday gathering with a cousin, auntie, or in-law who always has something to say? This one’s for you. This short and slightly petty episode is your permission slip to disengage — without guilt, without defensiveness, and without wasting your energy explaining yourself to people who don’t live your life. You’ll learn: Why “o…

Hey Doc If you’ve ever left a meeting with leadership thinking, “Why did I even bother?” I’ve been there. Vague emails. Rambling explanations. Trying to be heard and ending up dismissed. This episode is about doing it differently. With clarity. With strategy. And without bending over backwards to be “nice” about it. You’ll learn: How to prep before…

Hey Doc — How do you manage with young kids with household duties, work, marriage…life? It’s the question I hear constantly — in coaching calls, Facebook posts, in casual conversations when someone’s hanging on by a thread. And if you have no nearby family and no reliable backup? The question starts to feel like a punchline. Most advice boils down …

Hey Doc, We’re heading into the holiday season, and I want to offer you a small but powerful reminder — the kind we don’t usually give ourselves this time of year. Between the gifts, the traditions, the kids, the family expectations, and the pressure to “create magic,” it’s so easy to slide into the background of your own life without even noticing…

Hey Doc — What if I told you your husband and AI have way more in common than you think? Not in a “men are robots” way, but in a “this explains so much about your marriage” way. In this episode, I’m breaking down the four big parallels between husbands and AI — the ones that quietly shape your communication, your expectations, and yes… your resentm…

Hey Doc — Dr. Toya Coaching is turning two! 🎉 Two years ago, I had a newborn, a burnout hangover, and an idea that didn’t make much sense on paper, but made perfect sense for my life. What started as a postpartum support concept has evolved into a global coaching brand, a thriving community, and an impact that‘s undeniable. In this anniversary epis…

Hey Doc! What happens when the OB/GYN becomes a new mom and realizes everything she thought she knew about postpartum was incomplete? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Candice Wood, an OB-GYN, perinatal mental health specialist, and mom of five, for a conversation that is tender, hilarious, and quietly radical. Yes, she built a 2-day-a-week care…

Hey Doc, When you become a mom, everything changes— your body, your schedule, your sense of who you are. And when you’re a physician mom, that collides with a career that isn’t built for flexibility or rest. In this conversation, Dr. Sonia Singh and I go straight into that tension — the messy middle between professional identity and motherhood. We …

Hey Doc— This week’s episode is one of my favorites yet because it’s a full-circle moment. I’m sitting down with my friend Dr. Sarah Stombaugh—family medicine physician, obesity medicine specialist, private practice owner, coach, podcast host, and mom of three. And fun fact: she’s the reason I started Dr. Toya Coaching. Yep. You’ve heard me mention…

Hey Doc, What happens when you stop following the script and start building a life that actually fits you? This week on Stethoscopes and Strollers, I’m joined by Dr. Saumya Dave — psychiatrist, author, private practice owner, and mom of two — for a conversation that’s equal parts real, reflective, and full of permission. We talk about the seasons o…

Hey Doc, I just came out of 30 days without formal childcare — and let me tell you, it was brutal. Even with my mom’s help, the constant interruptions, scattered energy, and exhaustion left me running on fumes. I was counting down to bedtime, doom scrolling late at night, and struggling to stay in flow. Trying to hold everything together without re…

Hey Doc, Are you the problem? Not you alone, but us. Women physicians. Without realizing it, we uphold the very systems — patriarchy, sexism, racism — that keep us playing small. It shows up in the way we react when another woman asks for more, when we hesitate to negotiate, or when we discourage salary transparency, and when we are passing down ou…

Hey Doc, We need to talk about something that I believe is absolutely essential for every woman physician — especially those of us juggling medicine, motherhood, and marriage. Money. Specifically, your knowledge of it. Your relationship to it. And the way you might be giving away your power around it, even if your income looks good on paper. In thi…

Hey Doc, If you’ve ever looked into the au pair program and wondered, “Okay but… how much does it actually cost?” — this is for you. This episode was inspired by a client who asked me directly what she’d really be signing up for financially. And when I say there’s nuance? Whew. There’s nuance. The au pair program can be more cost-effective than a n…

Hey Doc, This episode is about the reason I created ✨The Connected Motherhood Experience✨ — a space specifically for Black physician moms. It came out of years of being in rooms, reading books, and trying to apply lessons that were never written for me. Most of the popular resources in the personal and professional development world weren’t created…

Hey Doc, This one’s different. In format and in focus. In this episode, I’m sharing excerpts from a book that reshaped the way I think about boundaries. It’s called Boundaries After a Pathological Relationship by Adelyn Birch. Yes, it’s about toxic romantic relationships... but when I read it, it felt like it captured everything I’ve experienced wh…

Hey Doc, You’ve made the decision to leave. Now what? In Part 2 of this powerful two-part series on how to leave your job with an empowered exit, I walk you through what happens after the decision is made: Giving notice. Navigating conversations. Protecting your reputation. Gathering what’s yours. We cover: ✔️ How to actually submit your resignatio…

Hey Doc, Let’s talk about how to actually leave your job. If you’re burnt out, disrespected, or just ready for more alignment, you’ve probably heard the fear-driven advice: “Don’t burn bridges.” But let’s be honest, that advice often keeps us stuck in situations that chip away at our confidence and well-being. In Part 1 of this two-part series, I b…

Hey Doc, We were taught to equate strength with staying, enduring, proving ourselves. But sometimes the most courageous, grounded, resilient thing you can do… is leave. Leave the job. Leave the school. Leave the situation that is breaking you down in the name of proving your strength. This episode was inspired by a homeschool thread, but it’s not a…

Hey Doc, What would you do if life gave you a second chance? In this episode, I sit with Dr. Verniese Moore, a board-certified family medicine physician, a wife, a mom of two, and the CEO of the luxury handbag brand Vie Lorie, who shares her life in the most raw and beautiful way. She takes us back to Gate B3 in LaGuardia Airport, where she fell to…

Hey Doc, This episode was sparked by a late-night convo with my husband about our current au pair (who’s on her way out) and turned into a full reflection on introversion, identity, and what it means to actually honor who we are, even when the world tells us we’re too much, or not enough. I’m sharing something personal about how my personality has …

Hey Doc, If you're bringing an au pair into your home, congratulations on building your paid village! But now what? The first 72 hours are a critical window. Not for work (they can’t technically start yet), but for setting the tone of your entire year together. This episode walks you through exactly what to do and what not to do, to help your au pa…

Hey Doc, Hiring a nanny can feel like a lot. Even after you’ve made the decision, there are still so many questions: Where do I look? What do I ask? How do I know if someone’s the right fit? In this episode, I walk you through exactly how to find and hire a nanny in five clear steps. Nothing vague, nothing fluffy, just what you need to move forward…

We’re back with Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, and this half of her story is just as rich and revealing as the first. If Part 1 was about identity and navigating early motherhood in medicine, Part 2 is all about intention in childcare, career, and designing a life that actually supports who you are. In this episode, we dive…

This one’s for the woman navigating the messy middle of ambition and alignment. In this deeply personal conversation, I sat down with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, physician, intimacy coach, mother of four, and one of my own mentors, to talk about what happens when your identity evolves in ways you didn’t plan for… but needed. She shares what it meant t…

Hey Doc, In this bonus episode of Stethoscopes and Strollers, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell returns to talk about one of the most vulnerable and underdiscussed parts of motherhood for physicians: inviting someone else into your home to care for your child. She shares: What it was like to welcome a 17-year-old “au pair before its time” into their small ap…

Hey Hubby, Yep, I said it. This one’s for you. I know most of my episodes are directed toward Physician moms, but this time I’m talking directly to the husbands. Not to criticize. Not to complain. But to invite you into a deeper understanding of what your wife is going through right now. Because when you became a dad, everything changed. Not just f…

Hey doc, This one might sting, but it’s worth staying for. In this episode I am calling out (with love) the high-achieving physician moms who don’t realize the pattern that you’re part of: weaponized perfectionism. Not because you’re mean or controlling. But because you’re capable. Efficient. An intelligent, successful physician mom who knows how t…

Hey doc, This one’s personal. In honor of Father’s Day (even though we don’t “do” the holiday), I wanted to take a moment to honor the man who made this podcast possible, my husband, Adé. Not because he edits the episodes or runs the backend (he doesn’t). But because of the stories I share here and the tools I teach, they come from real work, and a…

Hey doc, In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I’m revisiting a live I did called: "The partner you thought you had😩 How gender roles turned your progressive hubby into a 1950s a-hole" Because let’s be honest: even the most modern, educated, emotionally intelligent men can slide into outdated gender roles once kids come into the picture.…

Hey Doc , This month, I’m doing something a little different. Every episode of Stethoscopes and Strollers in June is for the dads. Not because they deserve a standing ovation. But because they’re part of the story. Your story. And I know, this might bring up some feelings. Especially if you’ve been carrying more than your share of the load. Especia…

Hey Doc— Let’s talk about what it really costs to perform strength. Dr. Tolulope Olabintan is a family medicine physician, a private practice owner, and a woman of deep faith. She’s also someone who—like so many of us—was raised to be “the strong one.” The Proverbs 31 woman. The helper. The one who keeps going, no matter what. Because “strong women…

What happens when you’re a military surgeon, a new mom, and a woman navigating two male-dominated worlds — all at once? This week, I sat down with Dr. Amy Vertrees — a trauma surgeon, Army veteran, and mom of two — who knows what it’s like to deliver babies, build a career, and serve her country… all while navigating early motherhood. We talk about…

✨ Stethoscopes and Strollers just turned ONE. ✨ One year. Over 60 episodes. Incredible guests. 18 five-star reviews. A global top 5% ranking — and a deeply aligned space that continues to grow week after week. This week’s episode is a little different. It’s a celebration. A reflection. A reminder of what’s possible when you follow that small voice …

Hey Doc — Mother’s Day is coming up. And whether you're excited, dreading it, or just… indifferent, I want you to hear this clearly: You deserve what you want for Mother’s Day. If you want brunch and balloons — I hope you get them. If you want a quiet day to yourself with no one touching you, asking you for anything, or expecting you to perform joy…

Hey Doc — So… are you a Meghan or a Mindy? This episode was inspired by With Love, Meghan on Netflix — and one very honest moment between Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and her guest, Mindy Kaling. Meghan? Fully in her element: cooking, entertaining, feeding people with joy. Mindy? Fully supportive — and also like, “Yeah, I pay someone for that.” Both w…

Hey Doc — When was the last time someone gave you permission to just want what you want? To go after comfort, joy, ease, or pleasure — without guilt, without justification? This episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨ is that permission slip. I’m sharing the moments in my life where a friend, a coach, or even a passing comment gave me the clarity a…

Hey Doc — Let me ask you something: Who raised you? For me, it was Selwyn and Lucille Luces — two hardworking people from Trinidad and Tobago who gave me and my sisters a childhood full of love, structure, and support. They had help. They worked full-time. And still, they absolutely raised us. This week on ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I’m unpackin…

Hey doc! In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I’m challenging the popular narrative of Physician moms as “household CEOs.” Because let’s be honest—most of us are actually functioning like overworked managers, not empowered leaders. And today, we’re going to break that all the way down. I dive into: Why most Physician moms are functionin…

Hey doc! For Doctor's Day, I'm giving you something actually useful - a guide to making AI work for you as a Physician mom. In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I break down why AI is the greatest gift since the internet itself, and why you shouldn't be afraid to use it. I share: Why staying on technology's cutting edge is crucial for o…

Hey doc! In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I'm having a vulnerable conversation with Dr. Erica Bove, a Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility Specialist and fertility coach who shares her powerful journey through motherhood during medical training, unexpected divorce, and rebuilding her life and career. Dr. Erica opens up about: …

Hey doc! In this episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I'm joined by Dr. Cheruba Prabakar, minimally invasive gynecologic surgeon and mother of three. Dr. Cheruba shares: Her journey through training, marriage, and having three kids How she successfully managed pregnancy during fellowship Why she waited three years before deciding on a third chi…

Hey doc! I'm excited to bring you this inspiring conversation with Dr. Jade Norris on ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨! Dr. Jade is a family medicine and obesity Physician who opened her direct primary care practice straight out of residency while raising two young children. In this episode, we talk about: Her "meet cute" story with her husband (it inv…

Hey doc! Welcome to the final episode of the Dream Life series on ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨! I'm wrapping up our blueprint with the most crucial step - taking action. In this episode, I share: Why "massive action" actually means baby steps How small wins create momentum for bigger changes The power of doing things scared Practical examples of fi…

Hey doc, I'm pulling back the curtain on my biggest investment of 2024 - $52,600 in coaching. Not a down payment, not a luxury vacation, not private school tuition. I invested this amount in my own growth, and I'm sharing why I consider it the best financial decision I made last year. On today's episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I share: Why…

Hey doc! Can we talk about time? Not the "how to manage it better" conversation - we're going deeper today. I'm sharing how one hour of intentional investment changed my life from running on empty to actually enjoying each moment. In this episode, I take you through: My journey from 60-hour workweeks to intentional living The real reason why "I don…

Hey doc, Today I'm sharing a deeply personal story about my journey discovering the transformative power of finding the right community. I open up about my experience in two very different coaching programs and what they taught me about trusting my intuition. I'll walk you through: Why community often matters more than the actual coaching How being…

Hey doc! On today's episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I'm talking about the most important love story - the one with yourself. I explore: What real self-love looks like in action How your children learn from your example Why boundaries show self-respect Transforming words into actions Creating lasting change Key Takeaways: Actions speak loud…

Hey doc! On today's episode of ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨, I'm opening up about the choices I make to protect and empower my Black children in today's world. I share: Why I modify toys and books for representation The power of early affirmation Handling racism at age three Creating protective environments Why these conversations matter for all fa…