How to Reassure Your Adopted Kids They Belong

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Eli Beer & United Hatzalah: Saving Lives in 90 seconds or Less 30:20

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Eli Beer is a pioneer, social entrepreneur, President and Founder of United Hatzalah of Israel. In thirty years, the organization has grown to more than 6,500 volunteers who unite together to provide immediate, life-saving care to anyone in need - regardless of race or religion. This community EMS force network treats over 730,000 incidents per year, in Israel, as they wait for ambulances and medical attention. Eli’s vision is to bring this life-saving model across the world. In 2015, Beer expanded internationally with the establishment of branches in South America and other countries, including “United Rescue” in Jersey City, USA, where the response time was reduced to just two minutes and thirty-five seconds. Episode Chapters (0:00) intro (1:04) Hatzalah’s reputation for speed (4:48) Hatzalah’s volunteer EMTs and ambucycles (5:50) Entrepreneurism at Hatzalah (8:09) Chutzpah (14:15) Hatzalah’s recruitment (18:31) Volunteers from all walks of life (22:51) Having COVID changed Eli’s perspective (26:00) operating around the world amid antisemitism (28:06) goodbye For video episodes, watch on www.youtube.com/@therudermanfamilyfoundation Stay in touch: X: @JayRuderman | @RudermanFdn LinkedIn: Jay Ruderman | Ruderman Family Foundation Instagram: All About Change Podcast | Ruderman Family Foundation To learn more about the podcast, visit https://allaboutchangepodcast.com/ Looking for more insights into the world of activism? Be sure to check out Jay’s brand new book, Find Your Fight , in which Jay teaches the next generation of activists and advocates how to step up and bring about lasting change. You can find Find Your Fight wherever you buy your books, and you can learn more about it at www.jayruderman.com .…

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast.

This week, my special guest and I are talking about addressing the tough questions our adopted kids ask. Common ones can be "Why are you my parents?" "Why am I not with my real parents?" and "Why don't I look like you?" "Why am I different?" and so many more. We need to welcome these conversations so our kids feel safe and seen in their own journey which had a challenging start.

Joined with me for this amazing and practical conversation is author Carey Koenig. Her recent book is titled "Do I Belong?" which is the catalyst for this conversation. She has two adopted children who asked her these many questions and she was passionate about creating a resource to help others in this calling.

Click here to learn more about her book!

Click here to check out her online resource for adopted kids!

So glad you're here to join us!

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com.

I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

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Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

How to Reassure Your Adopted Kids They Belong

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast.

Click here to learn more about her book!

Click here to check out her online resource for adopted kids!

So glad you're here to join us!

You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com.

I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!

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Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Should You Adopt Your Foster Children? 25:38

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I ask the question posed by many in the foster care system: should I adopt my foster kids? How will I know if that is what God is calling me to do? Or… what if He says no? I share statistics, information, but also share my personal experience where God told our family “no” to an adoption and I was not expecting it. As I like to say, in this calling you must “love fiercely and hold loosely.” In this calling, you have to be prepared for the unexpected, various outcomes, unknown possibilities and know God is with you every step of the way. Prayer is crucial, as well as unity in your marriage, and your support systems. Hopefully, through this episode, you are better equipped to face those situations… Here are a few takeaways: Statistics show that 400,000 children enter foster care annually. Adoption through foster care is often unpredictable. Foster parents must guard their hearts due to impermanence. Congruent planning can put pressure on foster parents. Unity in marriage is crucial for decision-making. Children in the home should be a top consideration. Not every foster child is meant to be adopted. Peace in decision-making is a sign of God's will. Listening to your body's stress signals is important. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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What Every Christian Parent Needs to Know About Foster Care 33:43

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by author and adoptive mama, Jessica Mathisen. In light of Foster Care Awareness Month, we discuss Jessica’s profound journey into foster care and adoption. We dive into unique family dynamics, the calling to foster care, the challenges faced by foster parents, and the importance of community support. It is crucial there is unity in marriage before stepping into this calling because the support and foundation is needed when facing the emotional, mental, and sometimes physical demands of this calling. Our conversation also turns to emotional complexities that come with fostering or adopting such as facing infertility. Jessica shares her personal experiences and insights, providing encouragement and practical advice for those considering or currently navigating the foster care system. Jessica shares her journey through foster care and adoption, discussing the challenges and joys of welcoming children into her home. She emphasizes the importance of community support, the need for older children in care, and the reality of disruptions in foster placements. Jessica also highlights the significance of trusting God's plan and finding joy amidst the challenges. Additionally, she introduces her new children's book, 'No Matter Where I Go,' which aims to provide resources and support for families navigating foster care. Here are a few takeaways: Every foster parent has a unique story and experience. Motherhood can be defined by love, not biology. Building a care team can ease the journey of fostering. Foster care and adoption are not solutions for infertility. It's important to involve children in the family mission of fostering. Older children in care, especially teenagers, need loving homes. Seeing a child in need can change perceptions and reduce fear. Disruption in foster care can be necessary for safety. Children in foster care still love their biological families. Learn more about Jessica Mathisen: https://www.jessicanmathisen.com/ Connect with Jessica Mathisen: https://www.instagram.com/jessicanmathisen/ Her new book and excellent resource for families: click here Christian Parenting’s Faith Centered Gift Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/gifts/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Supporting Foster and Adoptive Families as a Church 37:51

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Scott Fuller, vice president of advancement at Murphy Harpst Children's Centers. We discuss the importance of community support in foster care, the various programs offered by Murphy Harpst, and share inspiring stories of transformation in the lives of children who have experienced trauma. Scott emphasizes the need for churches and families to step up and support these vulnerable children, highlighting the role of mental health resources and the importance of seeking help without shame. Here are a few takeaways: Community involvement is crucial for the success of foster care. Children who have experienced trauma can heal with the right support. Foster families need ongoing community support to thrive. There are many resources available for families in need of help. Churches have a responsibility to care for vulnerable children. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Every individual can contribute to making a difference in a child's life. Murphy Harpst website: https://murphyharpst.org/ “We don’t all do the same thing, but we can all do something.” -Scott Fuller. Reach out to your church or local nonprofits to get involved. Share this podcast and spread awareness. Let’s rise up as the body of Christ and pour out the love of God to these kids! Christian Parenting’s Faith Centered Gift Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/gifts/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Teaching Our Kids to Talk to God 32:57

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Tanner Olson. Tanner said when he went to college he knew he was picking a major where he would end up poor and it was a matter of how. He bounced around until finally landing on spoken word poetry and writing. Today, he performs his spoken word poetry with friends who play music, in an effort to communicate God’s heart to the listening ears. Tanner is also the proud father of his adopted son, Judah. Together, we explore grief, adoption, and the power of prayer. Tanner shares his personal journey through infertility, leading to the adoption of his son. They discuss the importance of storytelling and how words can heal, as well as the significance of teaching children to pray. Tanner introduces his new children's book, 'All the Things I Say to God,' which aims to help families facilitate conversations about prayer and faith. Our discussion emphasizes the complexities of emotions in the face of grief and the beauty of trusting in God's timing. Here are a few takeaways: Prayer can be a simple, honest conversation with God. Grief can be a powerful teacher in faith. Children can learn to pray anytime, anywhere. Storytelling can heal and connect us. Adoption brings both joy and challenges. It's okay to hold multiple emotions at once. God's timing is perfect, even when it feels late. Get your copy of “All the Things I Say to God” https://www.amazon.com/All-Things-Say-God-Learning/dp/0310165954 Tanner’s website https://www.writtentospeak.com/ Follow him on Instagram @writtentospeak Christian Parenting’s Faith Centered Gift Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/gifts/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Unplanned but Good - Discussing Open Adoption with Terri Marcroft 29:12

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! I am joined by Terri Marcroft. Terri Marcroft is an adoptive mom, author, and adoption advocate who works hard spreading the word on adoption through Unplanned Good. In 2008 Terri identified the need to more actively suggest adoption: today only 1% of young US women facing unplanned pregnancy choose adoption for their babies, while there are almost two million couples in the US hoping to adopt. After ten gratifying years of parenthood and twenty-five in high tech marketing & communications, Terri founded Unplanned Good in 2010. Terri leads the Unplanned Good efforts to encourage young women facing unwanted pregnancy to consider making an adoption plan. In our conversation, we explain what open adoption is, why it's so beneficial for everyone: birth-parents, babies, and the adoptive family. Terri also highlights the importance of education on this topic, spreading awareness, and how people can be involved in their local communities because 1 in 4 girls will have an unplanned pregnancy from ages 14 to 20. That means this is happening in your community–it could be next door. With so many babies needing homes and so many homes wanting babies, it is imperative that we as the Church work to bring these two together. Here are a few takeaways: ● Less than 1% of women facing unplanned pregnancies choose adoption. ● Open adoption allows birth mothers to make informed choices. ● Transparency in adoption benefits everyone involved. ● Community support is crucial for women facing unplanned pregnancies. ● Education about adoption can change societal perceptions. ● Legislative advocacy can improve adoption processes. ● Encouraging open conversations about adoption is essential. ● Adoption is a loving choice, not a loss. Learn more about Unplanned Good: https://www.unplannedgood.org/ Christian Parenting’s Faith Centered Gift Guide: https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/gifts/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Tools for Self-Regulation, Anger Management and Coping Mechanisms 29:03

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Kimberly Dubose. Kimberly is a Family Centered Therapy Clinical Caseworker with Connected Families. She shares her expertise on managing challenging behaviors in children, particularly those who have experienced trauma. She emphasizes the importance of caregivers in modeling self-regulation and establishing healthy boundaries. Our discussion covers practical tools for emotional regulation, the significance of resilience in children, and the need for open communication about emotions. Kimberly also addresses the complexities of anger management and the role of community support in caregiving. Ultimately, she offers you encouragement and reminds you of the vital work you do and the importance of seeking help when needed. Here are a few takeaways: Healthy authority is essential for building trust and connection. Children can be very resilient when provided with consistent support. Practicing regulation techniques when calm is more effective. Caregivers should model self-regulation for their children. Emotional language helps children express their feelings better. Anger often masks deeper emotions like sadness. Providing options during anger can help de-escalate situations. Community support is vital for caregivers. Caregivers should give themselves grace and seek help. Here is the resource Kimberly referenced: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fTzXFPh6CPI You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Teaching Your Child They Are Chosen With Dorian Stewart 34:42

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined with the amazing author and adoptive mom, Dorian Stewart. Dorian has written the “Promise Pals” series, which was envisioned when she realized there weren’t many resources and books out there for adopted kids. Adopted kids are just as much chosen and wanted as biological children, especially since we are all adopted by our Heavenly Father. This is something Dorian and her husband wanted to strongly emphasize with their daughter. In our conversation, we discuss exactly how they enforced positive messaging for their child, how they prayed for their daughter’s biological family, and how to answer the hard questions their child asks. Here are a few takeaways: The journey of adoption can be seen as God's divine blueprint. Positive affirmations are crucial for building confidence in children. Infusing God's truth into daily life helps children understand their identity. Creating safe spaces for children to ask questions is essential. Adoption should be framed as a loving choice, not a rejection. You can learn more and connect with Dorian Stewart on social media and find her books! https://www.facebook.com/dorian.mcdonald.90/ https://www.instagram.com/de_stewarts/ https://www.amazon.com/stores/Dorian-Stewart/author/B08WM36MJP?ref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share%3Flanguage%3Des&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=0127f328-2b6f-40e9-8dfc-6321bf6506c9 You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Understanding Blocked Care with Lisa C. Qualls 44:32

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined with an incredible guest: Lisa C. Qualls. Lisa is the proud mother of both biological and adopted children, twelve in fact, and is an accomplished author, speaker, and Enneagram coach with TBRI training. Together, we focus on the concept of 'blocked care'—a self-protective mechanism that can hinder emotional connection between parents and children. Lisa shares her personal journey into adoption, the challenges faced, and the development of her ministry aimed at supporting adoptive and foster families. We discuss the neuroscience behind blocked care, signs to recognize it, and the importance of acknowledging these feelings to begin healing and reconnecting with children. Our conversation helps explain the concept of blocked care, its effects on parents, and practical strategies for overcoming it. We discuss the importance of understanding the nervous system, building supportive relationships, and finding hope through simple practices like breath prayer. We emphasize the need for self-care and the significance of recognizing beauty in everyday life as a means to combat feelings of overwhelm and despair. A great and practical technique is “YAHWEH” breathing, because sometimes we simply don’t have words when we are so depleted. Here are a few takeaways: Blocked care is a common experience among adoptive parents. Parents often feel shame for not feeling the love they expected. Acknowledging blocked care is the first step to healing. The Connected Child was a pivotal resource for many adoptive parents. Parenting children with trauma requires ongoing support and education. It's important to find community and resources to navigate the challenges of adoption. Caring for the nervous system is essential for recovery. Simple activities like walking can help regulate the nervous system. Sleep is crucial for managing stress and blocked care. Negativity bias can hinder our ability to see joy and beauty. You can learn more and connect with Lisa C. Qualls with these resources: https://www.lisacqualls.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lisacqualls/?hl=en You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Advice From A Trauma Informed Sleep Expert Allison Ezell 56:36

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by a very special guest! I first met Allison when she taught at an adoption support group last Fall, and I just knew she had to be on the podcast! Allison is a trauma informed sleep expert, something which did not exist when she was raising her adopted son who struggled at night. Needless to say, sleep is crucial for everyone’s health–physical, mental, and emotional! Yet sleep is not something we as parents fully understand and that is why this episode is so important. Together, Allison and I emphasize the importance of understanding the emotional and psychological aspects of sleep, shifting parental mindsets, and providing children with tools to help them feel safe and secure at bedtime. We discuss the complexities of parenting, particularly in the context of sleep issues faced by children. We explore the importance of consistency in parenting, the need for trial and error in finding effective strategies, and the significance of creating a safe and comforting sleep environment. We also address the impact of sleep deprivation on both children and parents, emphasizing the necessity of community support and self-care for caregivers. We highlight the emotional challenges faced by parents, particularly those in foster care and adoption, and offer practical advice for building confidence and reframing expectations in the parenting journey. I learned so much from Allison and I know you will too! So many eye-opening points which help me reframe my understanding of sleep and trauma, and how the two are connected. Here are a few key takeaways: -Sleep is a vulnerable act for children, especially those with trauma. -Understanding the emotional triggers around sleep is crucial. -Parents should shift their mindset from discipline to support during sleep struggles. -Adding tools to a child's sleep routine can help them feel more secure. -It's important to view sleep as an opportunity for bonding and connection. -Children need time to adjust to new environments and routines. -Parents should approach sleep challenges with compassion and understanding. -Building trust takes time and consistency in sleep routines . I am so glad you’ve decided to join us today! Below are ways to connect with Allison: https://www.dwellpediatricsleep.com/about-me https://www.instagram.com/dwellpediatricsleep/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Answering the Call for Older Teen Adoption with Della Lago 39:55

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Della Lago, an adoptive mom and advocate for how Christians everywhere can play a role in supporting teens in the foster care system. Della shares her personal journey of adopting a 17-year-old girl from a group home, discussing the challenges and triumphs of building trust and connection. Our conversation highlights the realities faced by teens aging out of foster care, the importance of community support, and the need for a safe space for these youth to dream and thrive. Della emphasizes that every child deserves a family and encourages listeners to step up and make a difference. She also shares the importance of understanding trauma, the need for community support, and the role of faith in the healing process. Together, we provide practical advice for families considering foster care and highlights the significance of being open to unexpected joys and connections that come with this journey. I am so glad you’ve decided to join us today! Below are resources from Della to learn more: https://nationalcasagal.org/ https://bethany.org/ https://enotahcasa.org/ You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Lifting Our Eyes to God as Foster and Adoptive Parents 34:08

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I am joined by Whitney Newby, author of the new book “ Lift Your Eyes: Daily Invitations to Behold Christ in Motherhood”, founder of Brighter Day Press, and a homeschooling mom of four. Whitney joins me to talk about the challenges and beauty of motherhood, particularly in the context of foster care and adoption. Whitney shares insights from her upcoming devotional based on Psalm 121, emphasizing God's attributes as a source of comfort and strength for mothers. Our conversation highlights the importance of relying on God for help and rest amidst the demands of parenting. Together, we explore the challenges of motherhood, emphasizing the importance of faith in God's provision, overcoming feelings of failure and comparison, and finding stillness amidst the chaos. We also offer practical ways to lift our eyes to Christ and incorporate biblical truths into daily rhythms, encouraging mothers to trust in God's promises and create an atmosphere of worship in their homes. Here are a few takeaways: -Psalm 121 is a comforting scripture for mothers. -God's attributes provide strength and reassurance in motherhood. -Jesus invites us to find rest in Him amidst our weariness. -God's grace is sufficient for us in our weaknesses. -We need to lean on God as our helper and provider. Leaning into faith in God's provision is essential for mothers. -Comparison can lead to feelings of isolation and guilt. -Living out our faith in front of our children is impactful. Connect with Whitney: Website New book Instagram You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Trusting God With What We Cannot Control: Waiting for Adoption 26:01

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I discuss the challenges and realities of waiting for adoption. The most important thing is trusting God during this process and part of that is managing expectations and actively engaging in the waiting process through praise, seeking God, and serving others. Throughout today’s conversation, I want to encourage you with scripture and my own experience as someone who struggles to wait. Here are a few takeaways: -Waiting is a part of life and a valuable experience. -Impatience is a common struggle, not limited to modern society. -The average wait time for adoption can be lengthy and unpredictable. -Adoption often involves the reality of broken families. -We can control our expectations, how we wait, and what we do while we wait. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Trusting God With What We Cannot Control: Our Kids Choices 22:01

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I discuss what to do and how to respond to the choices our adopted or foster children make. This topic is one of the first inspirations for this podcast as many families have asked me what to do when a situation arises where your child is making problematic, concerning, even destructive and harmful choices. It is important to always remember that God is in control and we cannot control our children. Even in the most loving Christian homes, children will be led astray and make bad choices. The question in this episode is how do we respond to it in a loving and protective way. I encourage you to acknowledge your weakness, embrace your role as the parent, and understand that your child’s choices do not define you as a parent, nor do they define your child. Here’s a few key takeaways you’ll find in this episode: -Trusting God is essential when facing challenges in parenting. -Parents should not lose confidence in their role due to children's choices. -Love should be confident and not fearful. -It's okay to acknowledge weaknesses and seek support from God. -Perfection in parenting is unrealistic; mistakes will happen. -Children's identities are not defined by their parents' successes or failures. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Trusting God With What We Cannot Control Sexual Abuse 20:54

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I discuss the complex and multifaceted issue of trusting God in the face of abusive situations within the foster care system. This episode topic was inspired by a listener’s question - this is a very real issue that so many foster parents face. That is why this episode is focused on some practical advice and how to lean into the Lord when we don’t understand the “why” behind these situations. I emphasize the importance of focusing on what can be controlled, such as prayer and education, while advocating for children's rights and safety. It is incredibly important that foster and adoptive parents provide a safe environment, create a safety plan, and be a voice for the children in their care. Empower these children beyond their trauma and trust in God's sovereignty over their circumstances. Here’s a few key takeaways you’ll find in this episode: -Focus on what you CAN control (Like prayer! Specific prayer!) -Teach your children proper body anatomy, safe touch, and boundaries with adults -KNOW your rights as foster and adoptive parents! If the children in your care do not have a history of sexual abuse, it is still super important to stay informed and create a safety plan to prevent it. I hope this episode has been empowering and informative. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Trusting God With What We Cannot Control: Failed Adoption 22:26

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast! In this episode, I discuss what it means to trust God with what we cannot control when it comes to adoption and foster care. I am honest with you, sharing my personal journey through failed adoptions, especially my emotional struggles. I wrestled a lot but also learned about control, God's sovereignty, and the importance of relationship over results. Even when you succeed in adopting your child, it isn’t a fairytale “...and they lived happily ever after…” Part of my story is how I cared for a traumatized baby who screamed every single night because she was separated from her birth mama. Here’s a few key takeaways you’ll find in this episode: -Failed adoption is NOT cruelty or punishment from God! -Failed adoption does NOT mean that God isn’t in control! -Failed adoption does NOT mean you have missed your calling! -To walk through failed adoptions, can teach you a lot about the adoption system, yourself, and God. -This is about a relationship, not a result. Ask yourself this as you wrestle failed adoptions: *Am I closer to God because of this? *Have I grown in Biblical wisdom and knowledge because of this? *Do I have new insight and opportunities that I wouldn’t have if I hadn’t said “yes” to this calling? *Has my understanding of God’s ultimate fulfillment to His plan changed? I hope this has been an encouraging episode! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

Called to Love: An Adoption Podcast for Christian Parents - Christian Adoption, Trauma and Healing, Foster Care, Parenting Adopted Children

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Helping Heal Destructive Patterns With Tori Hope Petersen 43:10

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Welcome to the Called To Love Podcast. In this powerful episode, I am fortunate enough to welcome back advocate, speaker, author, and foster mom Tori Hope Petersen. Drawing from her journey through foster homes, aging out of the system at 18, and overcoming labels like "self-sabotager," Tori shares how destructive patterns rooted in past trauma can be recognized and broken. This conversation dives into the challenges of foster and adoptive parenting, offering encouragement to love and guide children in survival mode with grace and perseverance. Tori emphasizes the importance of living with integrity, proclaiming biblical truth over oneself and others, and trusting God’s timing for healing. We also explore why dysfunction often feels familiar, the power of rewriting personal narratives, and how to embrace healthy relationships with resilience and faith. Whether you’re a foster or adoptive parent or navigating personal challenges, this episode offers wisdom, practical tools, and faith-filled encouragement to break free from cycles that hold you back and embrace a life of hope and healing. To learn more about Tori, her work, and her resources click here . You can also purchase her book Fostered or preorder her upcoming book Breaking the Patterns That Break You . She is on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok with the handle @ToriHopePetersen . So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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From Abortion to Adoption With Robin Gerblick 46:04

for 16 weeks siden46:04

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Welcome to the Called To Love Podcast. In this powerful and heartfelt episode, I get to dive into a topic of deep significance: the sanctity of life and the journey of redemption after abortion. I am joined by Robin Gerblick who is the founder of the Exodus Women’s Retreat, author of Giving Up Grace , and an adoptive mom. Robin candidly shares her journey from a point of crisis, navigating feelings of abandonment and loss, to finding profound healing through faith, grace, and forgiveness. We discuss the emotional, physical, and spiritual consequences of abortion, shedding light on the real struggles women face and the importance of creating a safe, grace-filled space for them to heal. Robin also shares practical insights for adoptive and foster parents seeking to minister to women in crisis and children from difficult backgrounds. This episode is a call to Christian parents to understand the complexities women face in times of crisis and explore how to extend grace-filled support. Whether you carry abortion as part of your story, or you're parenting children touched by these realities, Robin’s testimony is a beacon of hope and a reminder of the redemptive power of God’s love. You can learn more about Robin and her work here . Her book Giving Up Grace: A Spiritual Rebranding of the Soul can be found on a wide variety of sites such as Amazon , Barnes & Noble , or Redemptive Press . Other resources mentioned include the Exodus Women’s Retreat and Focus on the Family Post-Abortion Resources . So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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The Truth About Abortion in 2025 and What Christians Can Do About It With Bradley Pierce 38:37

for 17 weeks siden38:37

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this powerful episode, I had the opportunity to sit down with Bradley Pierce, attorney and co-founder of Abolish Abortion Texas, to discuss the church’s role in addressing the issue of abortion. We explore the challenges faced by pro-life advocates, the importance of equal protection legislation, and how the body of Christ can truly step up to make a difference for the unborn. Bradley unpacks the resistance to equal protection laws, even within pro-life circles, and shares insights from his experience drafting and advocating for abolitionist legislation across the U.S. We highlight practical ways Christians can engage, from educating themselves and influencing legislation to supporting families and fostering meaningful conversations within their communities. This episode is a call to action for believers to live as "living sacrifices" and step boldly into their role as defenders of life. Whether it’s advocating for change in the legal system or offering tangible support to families, everyone has a part to play in this fight for life. Let’s move from simply saying we are pro-life to living it out with conviction, compassion, and purpose. You can watch the "Abortion-Free" docuseries here to learn more about the current state of abortion, biblical perspectives, and actionable steps for individuals and churches. Learn more about Bradley Pierce and his work at Abolish Abortion Texas or Foundation to Abolish Abortion . So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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What Scripture and Science Say About Resilience with Dr. Nicole Wilke 35:54

for 18 weeks siden35:54

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am joined by Dr. Nicole Wilke, author and director at the Christian Alliance for Orphans Center on Applied Research for Vulnerable Children and Families. Nicole helps to explore the powerful intersection of scripture and science in building resilience in children and families. Her passion for helping vulnerable children and connecting research with frontline practice shines through as she discusses her new book, Overcoming: What Scripture and Science Say About Resilience. We discuss practical ways for parents, caregivers, and communities to become agents of change and support children through adversity. Nicole's books are available for purchase from Amazon or the Christian Alliance for Orphans page . Here's where you can learn more about Nicole and the Christian Alliance for Orphans . She is also present on Linkedin and Instagram . So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com. I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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2024 Highlight: Infertility & Adoption - Does One Lead to the Other? 54:49

for 19 weeks siden54:49

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. As 2024 comes to a close, Somer wants to highlight one of the best episodes from this year -- in case you missed it! Often people think infertility leads to adoption. It isn't always the case, but it can be for some. Joined with Somer on the podcast are authors Jenn Hesse and Kelley Ramsey who were connected from miles apart thanks to social media. They both share similar infertility stories which is what dawned their friendship and eventually collaborating on this book, "Waiting in Hope: 31 Reflections for Walking with God Through Infertility" In this episode, they tackle the emotional rollercoaster that is infertility. There is hope and there is pain, and it can be isolating. Kelley and Jenn remind us how important marriage is, community, and leaning into God who has the plan we may not understand. Something beautiful can come from this grief, and something beautiful can also be different from what we expect. So glad you're here to join us! You can email your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . Somer would love to connect with you on Instagram or send you a monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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2024 Highlight: Hard is Not the Same as Bad 35:45

for 20 weeks siden35:45

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. As 2024 comes to a close, Somer wants to share the best from this year. This episode is a 2024 highlight, to make sure you didn't miss it! The conversation is about how hard isn't the same as bad, and we all know how hard adoption and foster care is. Joined with Somer on this insightful conversation is the author "M is for Mama" Abbie Halberstadt. Abbie is the busy mom of ten kiddos who also finds time to encourage Christian mamas in their calling of motherhood. As moms, we are laying the foundation for our kids to know Christ; it is a heavy responsibility but one we can do with God on our side. Somer and Abbie talk about the hardship of parenting, and how that relates to adoption and foster care. Whether you're parenting adopted, foster, or your own biological children, its all hard! And hard is where God grows us. So glad you're here to join us! Link to: Abbie's Instagram Abbie's website Abbie's new book "Hard is Not the Same as Bad" You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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The Best Moments from Called to Love 39:31

for 21 weeks siden39:31

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. This is a special episode where Somer shares clips from the five most downloaded, most popular episodes from Called to Love thus far: Reframing Your Mindset As A Christian Adoptive Parent: Reflect on Your Calling Lessons Learned in Our Adoption Journey with Somer & Corey Everything You Need to Know from an Adoption Attorney (featuring Lucrece Bundy) Listener Q & A: Am I Really Called to Adopt or Foster? Understanding God's Heart for Adoption and Foster Care with Tim Wolkiewicz As the year closes, it is the perfect time to reflect on everything God has done and God has done great things for this podcast. Somer hopes and prays this show has been a blessing for you and a valuable resource! She is crafting a series for 2025 titled, "The Lies Adoptive and Foster Parents Believe" and she needs your help! Submit that "lie" the enemy is whispering in your ear so Somer can help point you towards God's truth. You can email your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . Somer wants to connect with you on Instagram or send you her monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Parenting Your Neurodivergent Child 40:51

for 22 weeks siden40:51

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am focused on talking about our neurodivergent kiddos, whether they're our biological ones, adopted, or being fostered. "Neurodivergent" has been a popular term in the past few years but what does it mean? And how do we love our kids well when we struggle to understand them? I explore all of this and other ways to regulate the big feelings and much more in this episode. And please reach out to me with your questions, comments, and especially your "lies" that you've experienced as an adoptive or foster parent, for a series I am doing in the New Year. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Helping Our Kids With Holiday Anxiety 51:34

for 23 weeks siden51:34

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am focused on talking about how to help our kids with holiday anxiety. Christmas is quickly approaching and maybe you've already experienced some the holiday stress with this past Thanksgiving. There is so much overstimulating our kids, from school activities, sugary sweets, family and friends gathering, and so much more... and with all this stress, anxiety and overstimulation can come the fights, tantrums, and big feelings that can even cause us to burst out in anger. So, how do we manage all of this? In this episode, I offer my recommendations from my personal experience and research. I hope you greatly benefit from what I have to share! And please reach out to me with your questions, comments, and especially your "lies" that you've experienced as an adoptive or foster parent, for a series I am doing in the New Year. You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Tracing HIS Promise with Donna Amidon 30:02

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. Christmas is quickly coming around the corner which is why I thought this would be a great opportunity to talk with Donna Amidon about the connection between Jesus and the Old Testament, how God is the same through all the ages and the promise of Jesus is woven throughout scripture. As foster and adoptive parents, the holidays can be challenging and one thing that can be stabilizing is having some family traditions. One thing that Donna talks about is the Jesse Tree, something she didn't realize was having an impact on her daughter. We can plant seeds in our kids and not see the fruit till years later which is why it is so important to persevere and keep planting! Here's a link to Donna's book: Tracing His Promise: Understanding the Bigger Story of Jesus and What That Means for Us Here's where you can learn more about Donna: her website, click here! So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Understanding & Destigmatizing the Need for Older Child Adoption 33:28

for 25 weeks siden33:28

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. This is such an important episode because there is such a stigma around adopting older children. Joined with me on this important conversation of breaking-down, understanding, and destigmatizing the need for older child adoption is an amazing expert from the field, Dr. Kimberly Offutt. Dr. Kimberly Offutt is an adopted mom herself who's first adopted child was eight years old, and has welcomed more children since then. She has been a part of Bethany.org for years and shares her experiences with the organization along with her personal stories. Here's the truth: adoption will break you, but it's also a sanctifying process where God refines you. It is hard and that is why it is so important to be aligned with your spouse and surrounded by a support system. Dr. Kimberly Offutt's resource: Bethany.org The book she continued referencing in the episode, "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" The podcast episode Somer references: "Safeguarding What is Sacred: Keeping Your Marriage Strong as Foster and Adoptive Parents" So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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The Unexpected Blessing of Relationship with Your Child's Bio Family 56:57

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am joined with Brandie Thomas who shares her incredible story about the unique relationship her family has with her adopted son's bio mother. Adoption is an inherently painful and beautiful process; beautiful in how we are able to give a child a loving home and painful in the separation of a child from their biological family. Brandie talks honestly about this pain and what she would have done differently in another open adoption and shares a lot about her experience in this process. You can follow Brandie on Instagram , check out her website , or the new book she's a part of, "Restore My Soul: Stories of Redemption, Deliverance, and Hope." So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Healing for Every Heart in Adoption with Jodi Jackson Tucker and Lisa Qualls 38:15

for 27 weeks siden38:15

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am joined with two amazing guests who are on the other side of their adoption journeys: Jodi Jackson Tucker & Lisa Qualls. They each share their stories and how they ended up adopting and all the ups and downs along the way, and they emphasize the need for healing when it comes to this calling. No matter which way you look at it, adoption is traumatic. While it is beautiful and sanctifying to open up your home and heart to a child in need, it doesn't mean there isn't heartbreak in the fact the child could not be with their biological parents. As Christian adoptive parents and foster parents, we especially need to acknowledge this heartache which can help us better understand what our child is experiencing. There is also so much healing, redemptive, and sanctifying power that comes with this calling... but it's also hard and we need Jesus every step of the way! To learn more about Jodi Jackson Tucker, click here! To learn more about Lisa Qualls, click here! Resources mentioned in the episode: Adoption Wise ministry, including free Blocked Care Webinar: Second Mothers ministry with bookshelf of resources: Pre-Order/Order: Healing for Every Heart in Adoption Buy the book now! So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Desperate Prayers for the Adoptive Parent with Rachel Wojo 44:24

for 28 weeks siden44:24

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am joined with Rachel Wojo for this discussion on the desperate prayers we have as adoptive parents. Rachel's story is full of grief, trauma, love, loss, and Christ holding her together tenderly. In this conversation, Rachel shares her story and how we can pray when we don't even have the words... You can buy her book "Desperate Prayers: Embracing the Power of Prayer in Life's Darkest Moments" by clicking this link. You can learn more about Rachel from her website! So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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Are You A Helicopter or a Helipad Parent? 35:43

for 29 weeks siden35:43

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Welcome to the Called to Love Podcast. In this episode, I am joined by Cynthia Baker. Cynthia is life-coach, speaker, and author, and sparks today's conversation on being a helipad parent as opposed to a helicopter parent. You're probably familiar with the term "helicopter parent." A parent that is always "hovering" over their child, anxiously trying to control everything around them so nothing "bad" happens. But the truth is bad stuff is going to happen to them, the question is are they prepared to handle it? Being a helipad means being there for them when they need it. When it comes to fostering and adopting kids, they especially need us to be safe spaces that let them feel all the feelings (good and bad). Cynthia shares her insight as both a life-coach but also someone in a unique situation raising a child that isn't hers biologically. You can learn more about Cynthia from her website! So glad you're here to join us! You can email me your questions about adoption and foster care at somercolbert@gmail.com . I'd love to connect with you on Instagram or send you my monthly newsletter with free resources and first access to episodes and more!…

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