Beste Anna Runkle podcaster (2024)

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“Cool-Girli-sm,” Magical Thinking and Limerence Keep You ALONE 27:25

10h ago27:25

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You might THINK you are ready for real love but if you’re pouring ALL your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is stringing you along, not available, and has been clear they DON’T want a relationship, it’s time to wake up. My letter today is from a woman who is aputting a giant wall between herself and the possibility of love. How to Tel…

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How Trauma Makes Your Productivity Come in BURSTS 20:45

2d ago20:45

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“Productivity Crash” is a term I made up for a phenomenon I see over and over again, where those of us who lived through trauma as children demonstrate a capacity for huge accomplishments -- but then they're followed by collapses in our ability to focus, be on time, or get anything done. It feels like someone took our batteries out! What is that? I…

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Why Traumatized People Can't See RED FLAGS (4-video compilation) 1:15:52

3d ago1:15:52

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If you grew up with trauma, there's a high probability that you've become emotionally attached to people who bring trouble into your life. Either they are unavailable, not into you, inappropriate, or abusive. But the trouble with childhood PTSD is that it can leave you with a broken "red flag detector." Nervous system changes caused by early abuse …

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Here’s What It Takes to Face the Truth and Step Up Into Your Life 34:34

5d ago34:34

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Living with your own self-defeating behaviors goes on so long sometimes, that when you even THINK of changing your life, you feel panicked. Many of us see what we need to change before we feel ready to take action. But be careful you don't stay frozen and stuck, waiting until you feel "ready." Soon your future starts to pull on you, drawing you for…

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Childhood Neglect And The Attraction to Partners Who Don't Care 17:06

7d ago17:06

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It’s a terrible thing when parents ignore and neglect a child for whom attention, love and security are just as important as food and water and oxygen. If you grew up starved for comfort, you may find yourself now, as an adult, trying to make do in relationships where you get almost nothing back. And the hardest part is, you can’t let go. In this v…

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Why Your Traumatized Self CRAVES ORDER 33:19

9d ago33:19

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When you’ve lived through abuse, neglect, bullying, hardship and getting ostracized, it becomes hard to think. Your life gets chaotic. Your feelings overwhelm you. It’s hard to keep track of time or take proper care of yourself. And your space gets cluttered. What your wounded self is craving is *order,* where all the elements of your life can fall…

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Obsessive Love and Limerence Ruin Real Hope of Love (4-Video Compilation) 1:25:10

10d ago1:25:10

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Your mind plays tricks on you when you fall in love with someone who says flat out they don’t want a relationship. This absent character, present only as an electronic voice or a digital image but never as a real person at your side who loves you -- can be the perfect blank canvas for lament fantasies. “If only we could be together…” that’s what th…

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Your Affair is Over But The Damage Is Still There 15:43

12d ago15:43

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It’s easy to think that when a period of intense trauma in your life is over, you should be fine. But the trouble is, AFTER traumatic experiences you can be extremely vulnerable, not just to people who want to manipulate you, but to your own, trauma-driven pattern of self-deception. Healing takes time, and sometimes the gravity of your mistakes bec…

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If You Work Hard to Heal But Happiness Is Nowhere in Sight, Try THIS 26:11

15d ago26:11

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Everybody loves transformation stories where someone has a horrible life of struggle and addiction and trauma – and then ONE good thing happens and EVERYTHING is happy ever after. It sounds good on social media but does not help those of us who are trying to FREE ourselves from the trauma-driven problems of the past. In reality, the wounds of traum…

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It Takes Inner Power to Do the Work and Change Your Life 1:02:50

17d ago1:02:50

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Trauma during childhood can teach you to "give away your power" through self-destructive tendencies, people pleasing, and an urge to flee conflict, responsibility, and intimacy. To heal trauma, you need your POWER. Here, I share a hugely popular video from my archives on the steps to take to build the stamina, resilience and insight needed to susta…

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The Real Reason Your Trauma Symptoms Come Back (4-Video Compilation) 1:24:36

18d ago1:24:36

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When we're talking about trauma, a "trigger" is a stimulus that sets off Childhood PTSD symptoms -- in particular, dysregulation. In this 4-video compilation I share four of my most popular videos about common - but often overlooked -- triggers that YOU may be experiencing now. When you learn to calm your triggers, your life gets freer and more cho…

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If Marriage and Kids are What You Want, Here’s What to Do 14:59

20d ago14:59

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If your heart's desire is to marry a man and have children but you keep dating men who don't want quite the same thing, it helps to get VERY clear about what you want and to change the way you date. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who has been sabotaging what she really wants in long-term relationships that can't bring her the fut…

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Why “Just Going with the Flow” Falls Short of Giving Meaning 25:42

22d ago25:42

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We’re surrounded by the noise of IDEAS about how to live life – “it’s all about self-discipline,” “just let go,” – “Do senseless acts of kindness” – “learn the joy of saying no.” All these ideas are in conflict with each other, so if you don’t have a burning light inside of who you are, they all just lead to confusion and emptiness. And this is esp…

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Childhood Trauma Robs Your Spirit. Here's How to Get It Back 22:35

24d ago22:35

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So many people are walking through their lives with a crushed spirit. All their hope confidence, or the inner power to do anything more than to just survive has been taken from them. They’ve forgotten who they really are, they avoid connection, and they now struggle to detect the difference between right and wrong. When your spirit is intact – you …

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Overcome Hardships and Change Your Life (4-Video Compilation) 1:46:28

25d ago1:46:28

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When we talk about the wounds of childhood trauma, many people focus on the pain, the tragedy, the long-term limitation some of us have struggled with. But the good news is, healing is possible. In this 4-video compilation I share some of my most popular videos that list tips and strategies to overcome the wounds of the past and to quickly progress…

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"Spiritual Bypassing" Means Justifying Giving 10x More Than You Get 19:23

27d ago19:23

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People who are ashamed or unhappy with their relationships often come up with creative ways to justify the fact that not only do they stay, but they pour out massive amounts of love, time and money that will likely never be reciprocated. The story they tell themselves is often described as “spiritual bypassing.” It’s a way to dress up big mistakes …

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Trauma-Driven Choices That Destabilize Your Life 28:13

29d ago28:13

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It’s normal for people who were abused or neglected in childhood to create quasi-relationships where they’re somewhat loved, but also harmed. When you stay for a long time in a situation you can't emotionally bear, healing yourself means uprooting everything you know (and with kids) that's especially hard. In this video, I respond to a letter from …

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Great Friendships Grow When You Master These Skills 18:10

1M ago18:10

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So many people struggle to find and keep and deepen good friendships with good people. Yet research shows that the people you hang out with have a bigger effect on how your life goes than just about anything else. They influence the choices you make. They influence the standards you set for yourself. They influence the other people you're going to …

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Heal These Common Trauma Symptoms That Block Advancement 1:53:19

1M ago1:53:19

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How can you get ahead when trauma from your past inhibits your ability to work? Trauma symptoms can limit your productivity, damage your work relationships, and prevent you from taking necessary actions to advance and enjoy your career. In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos about CPTSD at work and teach the top symptom…

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How to Break Free of ENTANGLEMENT With Exes 26:21

1M ago26:21

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Entanglement happens in relationships where there is a) emotional messiness, b) fear of leaving the relationship even when that's what you want, and c) one or both people are trying to justify things behaviors that harmed the relationship in the first place. Entanglement tends to go in circles -- an attachment that’s more driven by desperation than…

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What It Means When He's "Monogamous With His Mother" 11:59

1M ago11:59

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Sometimes our childhood experiences make us WAY too good at overlooking our own needs, prompting us to "donate" all our time and effort to the life of someone else, who can’t or won’t return the favor. One kind of emotional unavailability, defined in the book “No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, is a man who is what he calls “monogamous with hi…

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Your Clutter May Be A Trauma Symptom 40:13

1M ago40:13

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Every video I make is based on an idea I’ve got floating around in my mind, connected with healing from childhood PTSD. And I literally never know in advance if my viewers are going to resonate – sometimes they don’t. But there's something about this video that made it go viral FAST. And I’m sharing it here in hopes you can give feedback: What is i…

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Stop the Damage From These Parents Now (4-Video Compilation) 1:17:39

1M ago1:17:39

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One of the really hard things about narcissistic abuse is that a parent may have randomly punished and neglected you, and left you confused about what anything means. People with CPTSD often have a hard time seeing that their parents' behaviors were not their fault -- that as children, they didn't do anything wrong and nothing could have made their…

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Why No One Believes Your Feelings Are Platonic 8:31

1M ago8:31

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Some of the best friendships in your life will be with people where there's a risk that ONE of you will be attracted to the other. When there’s no attraction, there’s no problem. But because many of us are not always honest about our true feelings, we can go a LONG time pretending to be a friend when what we’re really doing, is feeding our need for…

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Early Trauma Taught You to Pretend Nothing's Wrong 19:31

1M ago19:31

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When you grow up emotionally neglected, it’s not uncommon that you’ll be drawn to people who neglect you and dismiss your feelings just like your parents did. Getting small and silent around this kind of thing is a trauma symptom, and you don’t have to go along with it. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who is dating a man whose par…

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An Interview With Dr. James Pennebaker 49:07

1M ago49:07

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If you've sought help for trauma-related symptoms you were probably told you needed to TALK about it. But a growing body of research shows that one of the most effective therapies for healing depression, anxiety and trauma is WRITING. In this video, I interview James Pennebaker, PhD, professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Texas at Au…

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Why Relationships Only Work When You Have Boundaries (4-Video Compilation) 1:27:46

2M ago1:27:46

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People with Childhood PTSD often struggle to speak up for themselves, or face conflicts where others aren't treating you well. This may have injured your ability to see things as they are. To read the room. To understand where people are coming from when they say one thing, but do another. This denial may have trained you to express your wishes, an…

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What To Do When You Don't Know What You Really Want 35:23

2M ago35:23

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I get hundreds of letters from viewers on this channel every month – way more than I can answer, and when I’m choosing which letters I’ll answer here on YouTube, sometimes I decide NOT to answer a letter, but THEN IT STARTS TO HAUNT ME. I keep thinking about the person, and thinking about their story – and the mystery of their struggles, but also t…

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Extreme Limerence Needs Strong Intervention 32:32

2M ago32:32

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Obsessive love tends to kick up when your life is bleak, and you have frail connections with people and activities you love. Limerence is when that feeling becomes like an addiction, but sometimes, the obsession can drag you into a deeper mental health crisis. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who finally caught feelings for someone…

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CPTSD Could Be the Reason You Struggle to GET THINGS DONE 19:43

2M ago19:43

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Everyone procrastinates sometimes. But for people who were abused or neglected as kids, there are extra factors that can make procrastination much, much worse. The things you’re not dealing with can take over your life, hold you back, make you depressed that you’re stuck, day after day, in the same old rut - like paralysis. In this video, I'll expl…

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Why Childhood Trauma Blocks Connection (4-Video Compilation) 1:20:50

2M ago1:20:50

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More people than ever are isolated and lonely People who have lived through trauma, especially in childhood, may have suffered neurological changes that make connecting even harder. And once you are in a relationship, it can cause you to fall into trauma-driven patterns that ruin closeness. In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popul…

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Abuse, Neglect, and the Suppression of Intelligence 18:11

2M ago18:11

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Early trauma can do tremendous damage to your ability to think, learn and remember, and one reason is the neurological dysregulation that often results from abuse and neglect in childhood. There is an injury – a developmental delay in the ability to listen and form ideas, and process them, and it often seems to get worse when we’re under stress. Tr…

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Either Way, Fixating on Changing Your Partner Hurts You Both 22:58

2M ago22:58

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One way that childhood trauma hurts your ability to have a healthy relationship is by halting your emotional development. When your parents threaten and ignore you, you have only your child’s mind to interpret why they are doing this, and how to cope with it. Some people shut down emotionally, which obviously isn’t good for adult relationships late…

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What to Do When They Push Their Views On You 16:40

2M ago16:40

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Opinion bullies have been running around, enjoying a new sense of unlimited power for several years now, trashing good and decent people, shunning things like discussion, inquiry and debate. It’s shocking how many people are willing to sacrifice basic respect and good will in order to demand they get their way -- and that everyone agrees with them.…

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Childhood Bonds With Parents Drives You Now (4-Video Compilation) 1:07:21

2M ago1:07:21

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When you weren’t loved properly as a child, your brain will tell you that the first person who is kind to you is the ONE, and you have to be with them, and you have to be with them NOW. CPTSD and attachment wounds can push you to attach instantly with someone you don’t even know. And often, after you’ve lost all boundaries, you start to see that th…

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Boyfriend’s Insensitive Comment May Not Be the Problem 10:28

2M ago10:28

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One thing that hurts relationships is comparing your partner to others. But something that ALSO hurts relationships is discarding them when they make a mistake. In this video, I respond to a letter from a young woman who was devastated by her boyfriend’s comments about his own exes. How to Tell if Someone is Partner Material?: FREE PDF Download: ht…

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Their Life Is a Mess and THEY BLAME YOU 21:40

2M ago21:40

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Even if you survived the trauma of abusive or neglectful parents, it’s very likely that your brother or sister or someone else in the family absorbed the chaos, and their trauma-driven behaviors end up hurting you again and again. In this video, I respond to a letter from a woman who must decide whether to help her suffering siblings, even though s…

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10 Ways Past Trauma Suppresses Income (How to Change This Now) 52:01

2M ago52:01

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One thing trauma experts don’t talk about enough is the connection between growing up with trauma – and UNDER-EARNING. This is a huge problem for so many of us with CPTSD. And when you’re underearning – it can be hard to see clearly why that’s happening, and what you can do to get your income UP to a fair and sufficient level. This is part of heali…

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Why Your Productivity is a Roller Coaster (4-video compilation) 53:26

2M ago53:26

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If you're rebuilding your life after trauma, you may have experienced "Productivity Crashes" -- my term for when you emotionally collapse (and often physically retreat) after big, courageous accomplishments. Too often, people with CPTSD struggle to follow up on their successes; or get stuck in "freeze mode" for long spells, or avoid advancing their…

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The Abusers Are Gone, But The Hurt Still Needs Healing 23:11

2M ago23:11

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It’s human nature to require justice. Somehow we NEED to know in our bones that the kind of harm that was done to us as children is NOT RIGHT, and should not have happened, and someone should have come to our aid. And yet the people who harm kids rarely take responsibility for it. So many of us never get an apology, or we lack the basic support of …

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Why You Shouldn’t Wait for an Apology 15:43

2M ago15:43

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Living through a rough childhood, it’s hard not to hope that ONE day, the parents who neglected you and made life chaotic will SEE – they’ll come around and admit what they did, and how they didn’t take care of you, and they’ll tell you how sorry they are. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who wants to heal, but imagines that only wh…

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Why Malignant Narcissists Love CANCEL CULTURE 23:18

2M ago23:18

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Abuse and violence are crimes, but having your own opinion is an essential part of trauma healing. Those who grew up with narcissistic abuse were forced to conform, comply. People who "cancel" others almost always think they are doing something heroic for the benefit of others. But in fact, cancel culture is a game run by narcissists, where destroy…

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CPTSD & The Feeling You Can't Connect (4-video compilation) 1:10:38

2M ago1:10:38

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People who were abused or neglected as children long to feel a sense of belonging. But it's an almost universal symptom of CPTSD to feel like you can't connect with others. You may feel like you don't belong in with groups, that people ignore you, or for reasons you can't explain, you struggle to form good friendships. Few understand the way CPTSD …

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There's Something Appealing About Partners Who Disappoint 17:48

3M ago17:48

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Trauma in your childhood gives you a blind spot that makes it easy to become attached to people who are AVOIDANT – they pull away when you try to pull close, they don’t GET it about being present for someone, or honoring them on special occasions. Avoidant people can do some parts of relationships really well, but over time, they can leave you feel…

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How to End Limerence Before You Destroy Everything Good 26:26

3M ago26:26

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Once in a while, I get a letter seeking my advice that’s so serious I’m not sure if I should read it on YouTube. Usually I decline, but in the case of a letter I received just a few days ago, I couldn’t stop thinking about the danger that everyone is in, and thought I’d better tell the letter writer – who asked me to be as harsh as I needed to be –…

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What to Tell MDs Who Just Don’t Get It About CPTSD 14:23

3M ago14:23

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For a lot of people who were abused or neglected in childhood, going to the doctor is a huge trigger. The questions they ask, the fact that they need to TOUCH you, and the control they have over whether or not you get to HAVE help at all – it can feel overwhelming, invasive, accusatory, demeaning, invalidating. Most doctors – even though they are t…

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Childhood Trauma and Damaged Perception (4-Video Compilation) 1:45:01

3M ago1:45:01

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As a child you developed the ability to use "magical thinking" to cope with abuse and neglect, but NOW, as an adult, it just might be blocking you from ever escaping troubled relationships, finding inner strength, and living a full life. In this 4-video compilation I share four of my most popular videos about damaged perception and how it makes us …

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Here’s How You Know It’s Time to Tell Him You’re Into Him 17:04

3M ago17:04

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You have a friend you’re secretly in love with. You thought you had to act like just a friend, to keep them as a friend, because you were sure they would never have feelings for you. That could be true, or could be your low self-esteem talking. What if all this time, they were pretending to be just a friend too? Should you risk telling them how you…

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How Trauma Makes It Hard to Recognize What’s Really Happening 19:21

3M ago19:21

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When traumatized people date, it’s easy to detach from reality, and create elaborate constructs that explain why other people do what they do, and why we feel hurt by it – without having to actually admit what's really happening. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is feeling confused (a tell-tale sign you've been "soft-ghosted" wh…

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You May Be Signalling to Others That You Feel “Less-Than” 14:55

3M ago14:55

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Even if you're good at acting confident, you may be giving off signs that you feel "less than" other people. Low self-esteem can have the effect of pushing good people away from you, and this in turn makes it harder to grow in confidence. In this video from my archive, I teach about what I call "the underdog effect" -- the unspoken signals you may …

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