S1 E4- Madeleine Black

How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Madeleine has an unusual personal story which she uses to inspire and motivate others. A deeply moving and empowering story, as she discovers that life is about how a person chooses to recover from adversity. We are not defined by what knocks us down – we are defined by how we get back up.
Violently gang raped when she was thirteen years old, and raped three more times before the age of eighteen, Madeleine has experienced more trauma in her life than most ever will. Living in a state of shock and self-loathing, it took her years of struggle to confront the buried memories of that first attack and begin to undo the damage it wrought, as men continued to take advantage of her fragility in the worst possible way.
Yet, after growing up with a burden no teenager should ever have to shoulder, she found the heart to carry out the best revenge plan of all; leading a fulfilling and happy life. For Madeleine, forgiveness was the key. True forgiveness takes genuine effort. It takes a real desire to understand those who have done us so much harm. It is the ultimate act of courage.
Key Points of the episode:

• A terrible traumatic event that changed her life, and how she finally shifted and worked through it, and why.
• How she went through denial to acceptance.
• A healthy and powerful definition - and the power of forgiveness.
• How sexual violence is "virtually decriminalised" in the UK, and why.
• How she has broken up with her "friends" shame, anxiety and fear.
• How the responsibility for sexual violence does not lie with alcohol or dress code but squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrators.
• The power of the ripple effect when we share our stories
• The wonderful well being she has now, no trauma!
• A way out of her comfort zone- bit by bit!

Reach out www.madeleineblack.co.uk
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