Ep55~ Red Flags

Man Shopping with Stacie

This episode is all about red flags - how to spot them and how to respond to them. I share my own stories of red flags from my past as well as from my current dating life.
To begin, I talk about little pink flags- early flags that have popped up when I've just been texting or getting to know someone before a first date. A guy that I got to know early in 2020 is a great example. Some of the flags that bothered me:

• Texting too frequently
• Sharing every detail of daily life
• Talking too much about their work( instead of getting to know one another)
• Talking negatively about their job

Then, I share some examples of red flags from my more recent dating life:

• Being unkind/rude to hostess, waitress, bar tender, valet, etc.
• Looking at a dating app while on a date.
• Being distracted by their phone while on the date (without explanation).
• They're currently in a toxic situation with an ex and they share details
• Signs of substance abuse and addiction
• Use of drugs/alcohol that doesn't align with your lifestyle
• Lying
• Love bombing - Identifying when it's genuine & authentic V a red flag
• Consuming all of your time
• Isolating you from friends/family
• Jealousy - of any relationship we have, including our children
• Feelings of being controlled or unfairly accused
• Moving uncomfortably fast
• Being critical of you (especially your appearance or things you can't change)

I think time is crucial in deciphering flags from isolated, insignificant behaviors. Paying attention to actions (not only words) over the course of weeks and months will help us decide if we're seeing red flags that necessitate a break up. Pay attention to what is right in front of your face and recognize that is who you are choosing- not their potential.

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