Self Forgiveness: Extending Grace to Yourself

Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss:

• You need grace
• The cure for perfectionism
• Getting to the root cause
• Liberation from rumination

Key takeaways:

• Everybody needs grace, even you. It will help you cope with the most common phenomenon in all human beings: failure. Without grace, you can’t grow as a human being.
• Giving grace is all about releasing yourself from trying to attain that unattainable goal of perfectionism. When things are great, humble yourself. When things go bad, give grace to yourself.
• Keep a Q&A dialogue going in your head, challenge your thoughts, get real and go deep into the issue until you reach the root cause.
• Extending grace is the liberation from that rumination. Do not keep yourself chained up because of a mistake you made. Take ownership and responsibility of it while giving yourself grace. Grace is a source of power, remember that.

“Be so careful with yourself because your subconscious is listening to that language. Whether it’s inside your head or you’re saying out loud…watch what you say to yourself.” - Michelle Wickman

B 100% responsible for your actions. Reflect on your actions, and see yourself with compassion in that moment. Be more proactive be more positive in your self talk.

Some of oyur own paradigms have been forced unto you - and most are good, and are necessary for that time of your life. Now, you must be brave enough to unlearn, learn, and relearn, whatever it is you need to in order to grow. That will require a lot of grace. The past happened, own that and own your present.

Extending grace is the liberation from that rumination. Do not keep yourself chained up because of a mistake you made. Take ownership and responsibility of it while giving yourself grace.

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Keep a Q&A dialogue going in your head, get real and get deep into the issue until you reach what might be the root cause.

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Challenge that thought. Get to that reason why you don’t let yourself get grace.

When things are great, humble yourself. When things go bad, give grace to yourself.

Giving grace is all about releasing yourself from trying to attain that unattainable goal of perfectionism.

If you’re even 1% better this week than you were last week, that’s progress. Congratulations! You’re growing. Growth will take mistakes and failure.

When you ask yourself why - answer the question. When you answer the question ask yourself why again.

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We extend grace to others, but not to ourselves. We don’t believe we’re as deserving.

Extending grace = comforting yourself. You have to check yourself, ask yourself if you’re going to be ass unmerciful to others.

It’s about how we grow as human beings.

Watch those words that you use, Be so careful with yourself because your subconscious is listening to that language. Whether it’s inside your head or you’re saying out loud…watch what you say to yourself.

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