9: Money is not everything

BE TRUE BE HAPPY BE YOURSELF WITH YUKI MIYAKI

Transcript for Ep 9

Welcome to Be True, Be Happy, Be Yourself show, I'm Yuki Miyaki. In this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story and why money is not everything

From starting up my very first beauty salon, to getting married and having children, in the eyes of others, I have a triumphant Successful life. Before this incident happened, I always felt that as long as I was rich, everything will be under my control. I have a happy family with two daughters and two sons. Marco is my third child. It was not until Marco was born that changed my view on money and life. The theme I want to share with you today is: "Money is not everything.”

I will always remember that day, the 28th day after my third birth, when I was still in confinement. The aunty who helped babysit my child showed me my son and said, "Yuki, look, I don’t know what happened to your son..." I saw that Marco's whole body turned purple and black, and his tiny body was constantly twitching intensely. Apart from anything else, I immediately took Marco to the emergency room of the specialist hospital, but the doctor was afraid to accept him. Then, I (hurried ) to another specialist hospital, and several specialist doctors surrounded my son for first aid. Seeing his tiny body, slowly turning purple and then blue, and then returning to normal, my heart calmed down. For the first time, I realised that having money may not solve the problem, even at the juncture cross roads of life.

The next day, the doctor said that Marco should be transferred to the ICU, and I asked, "Why does he need to enter ICU? Isn't that for severely serious ly ill people who need to be admitted?Isn't my son all right now?" The doctor told me, "You child may seem alright without problems now but he is in danger. Generally, the cause of the child’s convulsions is high fever, but your son does not have these symptoms. We need to check on him with various examinations. To find out why as if this continues, it will affect his subsequent brain development." In addition to worrying, I still worry about my son’s health and money, because I don’t know how long this battle will take.

It costs RM1000 to stay in the ICU for one night. When family members and relatives around me heard about it, there were many opinions. Some asked me to transfer my son to another hospital, some were concerned if I ate something wrong during pregnancy and etc. I didn’t care much as I knew I would not transfer my son to other hospitals or change doctors. My son nearly died. was rescued from the jaws of death. I will never let him take any risks unless I am near to bankruptcy. Marco stayed in the ICU for a total of two weeks before transferring to the Pre ICU. During this period, he had almost done all the physical examinations, even the extraction of bone marrow. However, the reason was still unable to detect. In order to let Marco recover as soon as possible, I started praying to God and worship Buddha even when I’m not religious. I just wanted him to recover...

This was the second time I felt that money wasn’t everything. As even if I spend all my savings, Marco still might not be saved. In order to avoid him from convulsing, the doctor injected morphine to his brain. From hospitalization to discharge, Marco took morphine for 3 months. The side effect of morphine is that it may lead him to become a demented child. I felt pain seeing him undergoing all of this, so I decided to stop the drug. Such a decision wasn’t made suddenly. I have consulted an expert in pediatric brain expert in Malaysia, and her answer to me is that after Marco has done all the checks, everything is normal and healthy. The only reason for his convulsions is that any current advanced medical technology cannot be verified yet. She said: If you believe in Jesus, you should pray to Jesus, and if you believe in Guanyin, you should pray to her. This is also the only thing you can do. After some people have seizures, they may have (intermittent) seizures. However, after some people have seizures, they will never have a seizure in their life. I hope Marco is the latter. After listening to her, I really felt helpless.

In other words, there is no cure for my son because no one can find the cause. This was the third time, I totally believed that money is not everything, and life is so fragile.

I really believe that this is a gift from God, even though I almost lost my son. However, because of this, I saw that money is not everything and life is so fragile. Nevertheless, we must believe in all the best arrangements in life, as long as we accept and try, we will always see the light and hope of life.

If This it is for mothers and facing my past experience, here are three suggestions that you may refer to:

1. Accept it！

Yes, accept the arrangement given by life, face the reality, do the greatest mental building, and tide over this difficulty with your child. If at that time, I choose to blame myself and be depressed, it will not change any facts. When you accept it, you will naturally have the courage to face it.

2. Don't give up

Don't, don't, don't give up. Every time I see other children and mothers in the hospital, my heart really hurts. I don't want my children to be in this path in the future. When I asked all the doctors, specialties, the most advanced scientist, there was still no answer given. I almost broke down. I questioned myself constantly about what can I do for my son? As a mother, I will definitely make the most suitable decisions and arrangements for him. I appreciate the persistence I had in the past. Although life is fragile, it can be so tough and beautiful.

3. Take care of yourself.

If a child is sick at home, this will be a long-term physical and mental battle. As a mother, you must take care of your physical and mental health. At that time, I ran around the hospital, temple, and home. I was really exhausted but I could only continue doing it. Moms, children need your continuous company in the future, so taking care of yourself is giving your children the greatest support and wealth.

Today, Marco is very healthy and everything is fine. It was only at the beginning that he was slow in learning and had learning disabilities because of the convulsions in his childhood and the side effect of morphine. Afterwards, with much effort from Marco and I, this problem had overcome finally. We overcame this problem. In the following topic, I will share with you stories about children with learning disabilities.

I hope that through my story sharing, you can get more inspiration and gifts of life.

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