EP120: When They Want YOU, But Not Your Partner

The Open Bedroom Podcast

This is part 2 of my conversation with Scott, where we explore how we as a couple deal with someone wanting one of us, and not the other.

Be sure and go back to EP#119 and listen to the first part of this conversation.

00:00 (Introduction to the podcast) Scott and Jennifer introduce the podcast and discuss the topic of the episode.

01:05 (Emotional Position and Jealousy) Scott expresses discomfort with Jennifer having sex with another man, acknowledging jealousy and emotional constructs in relationships.

02:55 (Scott's Motivations for Pursuing Others) Scott discusses his enjoyment of being desired by others and the importance of mutual attraction and excitement in shared relationships.

05:27 (Navigating Jealousy) Scott decides not to pursue a separate relationship due to Jennifer's jealousy, prioritizing their relationship and avoiding strain.

09:17 (Desire and Connection with Third Partners) Jennifer emphasizes the importance of genuine desire and connection with bisexual partners, expressing the need for mutual attraction.

11:23 (Shifting Dynamics and Preferences) Jennifer and Scott discuss their evolving preferences in seeking connections with bisexual partners and the enjoyment of mutual involvement.

12:49 (Consideration and Respect in the Relationship) Jennifer expresses gratitude for Scott's consideration and respect in their relationship, emphasizing mutual understanding and appreciation.

15:02 (Impact of Open Relationships on the Couple) Jennifer discusses the impact of open relationships on their connection, emphasizing deeper conversations and increased alignment.

17:07 (Jennifer's Online Coaching) Jennifer introduces her online coaching services, focusing on open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

18:15 (Differentiating Their Approach) Scott clarifies their intent to build ongoing connections with partners, distinguishing their approach from casual encounters.

20:24 (Dealing with Couples Privilege) Jennifer and Scott discuss couples privilege, emphasizing the importance of respect and consideration for third partners.

24:04 (Consideration for Third Partners' Lives) Jennifer highlights the consideration and understanding of the lives and obligations of their third partners, beyond interactions with the couple.

25:10 Respecting Boundaries The speaker discusses the importance of not sacrificing existing relationships for personal gratification.

26:29 Navigating Misunderstandings The speaker shares a scenario where a misunderstanding about a couple's relationship dynamics led to a potential conflict.

27:55 Prioritizing Partners The speaker emphasizes the importance of respecting the primary relationship and not causing strain or damage to it.

28:54 Couples Privilege The speaker expresses support for couples prioritizing their relationship over open sexual experiences.

29:15 Respecting Others The conversation concludes with an affirmation of respecting and appreciating others' boundaries and relationships.

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