Living the Could Life

Authentic Men's Group podcast

In this podcast we talk about three components of living a could life.

1. Living

2. Loving

3. Leaving

Start by asking yourself these questions:

How could I live?

What is living? Really living? Not just existing but truly living.

What’s musing? What’s missing?

What does it look like to live out of our imagination, not our history?

What does it look like to live out of our inspiration, not our obligation?

The key is not prioritize our schedule, but to schedule our priorities

Ask yourself what really matters and priorities your life by this.

Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not on what is essential. We live with the emphasis on being efficient rather than understanding what efficiency can be good for and where it is limited.

“What you believe about your life is what you make true about your life.” -The mountain is You by Brianna Wiess-

Be Present!

Live in the present not in the regrets of the past

Live in the present not in the worries of the future.

When do you feel most alive?

How could I love?

The six Greek words of love:

1. Agape - The unconditional love, too will good for another. This love sees past behaviors and loves without expectations.

2. Eros - The love that desires and expresses deeper love through sensuality. Connection through vulnerability, naked and unashamed.

3. Philos - The love between equals or brothers. The love that creates and generates loyalty and dedication.

4. Storge - The love and affection in a family, especially between parents and children. It can be also used for connection of a clan, team or organization.

5. Xenia - The love associated with hospitality. It is rooted in generosity and reciprocity.

6. Philautia - The love of oneself or the regard for one's own happiness or advantage. When healthy it is associated with self-compassion, when unhealthy it is self obsession.

The greatest axiom of Christianity is “Love God, Love Self, Love Neighbor as self”

Loving self is the center point, the crux of the matter.

Exercise: Name all of the things you love... Did you name yourself?

Loving is messy. When we love we accept who we are. We are all messy, this is part of it. This is by design and meant to keep us alive and engaged.

Love at the source will pour into the relationships of life.

How could I leave?

Practice leaving by sabbath rest and vacation.

Put whole life into something and then leave it.

If we create paradise here we have to leave it, so we might as well practicing leaving it as we go.

This is leaving a legacy and creating a heritage. It is living a life that outlasts the years lived.

Tr”I”bes - In the middle of the word ‘tribe’ is the person “I”. Not that the tribe revolves around I, but that I make a contribution to the tribe. When we think in term of plural tribes we tip the balance to change the world

The Tamarisk (Tam-U-Risk) Tree in ancient eastern writings was often planted when a covenant agreement was being made. The Tamarisk tree didn’t really start to bloom and show maturity until 80 years after it was planted. It would be a reminder to grandchildren of a covenant agreement made three generations before.

Ask yourself, What trees have I planted?

How am I make things better for the people that follow me in the generations to come?

How am I setting the future generations to go further than I did?

Conclusion:

Living

How could I live?

What is living? Not just existing but truly living.

How do we live out of our imagination, not our history?

Am I living out of our inspiration or out obligations?

Loving

How could I love?

How could I love effectively when considering the six Greek words of love?

When I make a list of the things that I love do I consider myself and where am I on the list?

Leaving a Legacy

How could I leave?

How am I practicing leaving by sabbath rest and vacations.

How can I make a contribution to the tribe realizing I am in the middle of that?

How can I plant a tree that my grandkids can enjoy?