EP224 Think This Journey Is Too Hard? Know this.

Fearlessly Fertile Podcast with Rosanne Austin

There is no question this journey is going to push you in ways and areas you hadn’t anticipated. BUT, there’s something you need to know when it gets REALLY hard. If you want to regret-proof your journey, turn this episode up and put it on repeat.

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Transcript:
Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you’ve got to have the mindset for it. It’s time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I’m your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist.

I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey.

It’s time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let’s do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 224. Think this journey is too hard? Know this. Woman, woman, woman, I wanted to share something that I think is super powerful with you this week. Well, I kind of share super powerful shit every week.

But this is something I think is the great equalizer for all of us. And the inspo for this episode came from listening to the great Tim Grover. My ladies, particularly those in my programs and who coach with me privately, know how obsessed I am with high performers and what really makes them great. I mean, truly great.

I mean, what makes them tick. And how, how do they really do it? I’m talking about those who are great, not just on a global level, but locally, in their families, and most importantly, with themselves. You see, one of the common themes that is undeniable and quite foundational is being great with you first.

Because you won’t ever be truly great unless you master you. When you master you, the bullshit in everyday life becomes less of an issue. And you have singular focus on what truly matters to you and your soul’s calling. Which in our context is motherhood and living the life God Universe Source gave you to your fullest potential.

Not from perfectionism. But truly out of gratitude and integrity to the blessing of this life. Now, I am often drawn to sports for my research and study in this area. It’s not the only source of my study, but it is unquestionably a rich source of material. Nowhere else is there a more accessible demonstration of unity between mind and body than in sports, at least in my estimation.

You can have raw talent that isn’t worth a shit without the guidance and honing that comes from having mentorship. And you can actually see when someone’s head is not in the game. I also love how each player, in control of their own mindset, brings such power individually and in their performance on the team.

You can’t be an observer in this area without acknowledging the incredible wisdom and proven fuck yeah power of the great Tim Grover. For those that don’t know him, he is the person Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant, Dwayne Wade, and other sports legends in the NBA, MLB, and NFL went to when they wanted to not just be better, but win, fucking win, man.

He’s written books such as Relentless and Winning. He is the person. Players would take a flight to in the middle of the night when their shit wasn’t right. They trusted him. They love him. He believed in and loved them back enough to give it to them straight. Then they got back in their private jet and onto the course or the court or the playing field and delivered.

You see, Tim understands his responsibility to his clients, and they understand their responsibility to themselves. It is all about shared vision, trust, and a belief in the greatness that is inside of them, and frankly, all of us. I love Tim Grover because he’s a bit gruff, unapologetic, and understands the value he brings to the table.

He doesn’t coach people who don’t want to help themselves. He goes where he’s wanted, not where he’s needed. We, Tim and I, we have a lot in common. And I don’t say that from a place of hubris or delusion. It’s just a fact. While my lane is by all outward appearances dramatically different, our style, our drive, and our commitment to our ladies, well, in my case, my ladies, and for him, his guys, it’s not just a job.

It’s a soul’s calling. I am confident in saying that the women I have the honor to work with know this and would agree. I work with women that have me leaping out of bed in the morning to serve. They are the best in their respective fields, and they want to bring that magic to this journey. They want to cultivate the winning edge here because this shit isn’t taught in medical school, law school, or frankly, any institution of alleged higher learning.

What I teach is the intangible X factor. That has taken women from single digit odds to holding babies in their arms. Just scroll through this podcast episode list. If you have any doubt about that, what my ladies create speaks for itself. I’m the person they turn to and they know they can count on me.

Now, while you get a taste of that and kind of what that’s like here on the podcast. What my ladies and I create together in my programs goes 10, 000 times deeper and the magic is hard to describe. Let’s just put it this way, if you are serious about having this baby, are a woman of integrity, meaning you do what you say you are going to do.

You value investing in yourself and are ready to do what it takes to win on this journey, then submit your application for consideration for my programs. We are at the halfway point in this year. It’s time to get your shit together, my darling woman, and, and turn the tide and set yourself up for a massive win.

Okay? We’re halfway. We’re halfway, baby. There’s still time for you to make a difference now to make sure that you use the opportunity. I’m giving you in today’s episode by sharing what I’m sharing. We have again created a beautiful worksheet to go along with it. It’s in the show notes or in the email that announced this episode, download it to follow along and do something more than just passively listening and hoping things change.

Be the woman who makes her own luck instead of haplessly waiting to just get lucky with all of this as our backdrop. I’m sharing a quote from this man, the beloved Tim Grover, that will hit you right where your excuses live, okay? So just, let’s breathe together for a second, cause I really want you to hear this, I really want you to feel this, because this is one of those things I like to call an unfucker.

Okay, like when you hear shit like this, you, you, you start to get unfucked, alright? And it’s really good, it’s a really good idea, especially on this journey, when you’re, when you’ve got big dreams, you’ve got Big things you want to accomplish. You cannot fuck around. You gotta un fuck your situation. And this is definitely an un fucker.

So here’s the quote from Tim Grover. If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret. And that bill from regret? That’s generational. Whew. Let me just share that with you again, because that’s a big one. I really want you to feel it. Feel how the words vibrate and connect with your soul.

If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret. And that bill from regret? That’s generational. If you aren’t ready to run through a brick wall for this baby after hearing that, and you sit a little bit taller, a little bit straighter, and, and your fear starts to run in the opposite direction, because you’re like, whoa, my regret could be generational, you might want to reconsider your priorities, okay?

No judgment, just a serious fucking suggestion. Because when you really think about this, The price of winning on this journey and you weigh that against regret and you think about like literally it’s generational, man, man. I mean, I have compassion for those who come to me claiming they want this baby, but freak out at what it might cost them how scary it might be to get out of their comfort zone and use their partner as an excuse for not doing what their heart is telling them to do.

I have compassion for it. Compassion is one thing though. Tolerance is another. If you’re serious about walking through your front door with your baby in your arms, you can’t tolerate that wanking either. Okay? Think about it. If you think the price of winning is too high, wait till you get the bill from regret.

And that bill from regret, that is generational. Like, just sit with the truth and gravity of Tim Grover’s statement. It’s fucking sobering. Regret is generational. And for us on this journey, it is literally generational. What you may not realize is you are directly shaping your family tree with your choices, your fears, your negativity, your doubt, your going cheap, and all the other crappy ways that you may quietly Maybe even unknowingly be punking out.

I mean, think about it. Will you be the woman that, in fact, punks out, that became that sad aunt people pity because she gave up? Or will you be the woman that stood her ground for her children and became the legend that created a new narrative of excellence in her lineage? Will you be that woman, or will you be the punk?

We pass our wisdom down through our DNA, and if you doubt that, spend an afternoon reading about epigenetics instead of watching Netflix, and your mind will, in fact, be blown. Okay? We carry this knowledge, we carry our decisions, we carry our pain, in our genes. Pass that down! Okay? And you have to understand there is no participation prize on this journey.

There is no second place. And at the end of the day, what we each have is the satisfaction of knowing that we gave it our all. And those that truly do won’t need to worry about regret because they find a way. They always do. They are relentless motherfuckers who don’t quit for shit. This is what I get to see in my ladies and it’s magnificent.

So let’s do some work together in this episode. Download the Regret Rundown Worksheet that we created for you. You know, it’s in the show notes or it’s in the email that announced this. You should get, you should pretty much know this by now. We go through what we go through in creating this content for you because we’re trying to help you move the needle forward, you know I’m gonna put this information out there.

I’m even gonna make you a beautiful worksheet, but I can’t do it for you All right, you gotta be the woman in the ring. Get off your ass and get active. And I know you might be thinking, Rizanne, what do you mean I’m not active? You know. You know you’re holding back. And that’s why we’re talking about regret today.

So, step one on the worksheet. Your regret rundown worksheet. You gotta stop kidding yourself about what’s really at stake on this journey. So, I want you to write down in section one. This is the first step. What are the exact regrets you will have? Think about it. If you give up on yourself on this journey, what are the exact regrets you are going to have?

And I want you to name them in every last painful detail. Where will you be five years from now if you keep playing small? How miserable will you be? And if your misery doesn’t move you, maybe this will. You will be five years older. Seriously. And look, we all do this, so don’t act like you don’t and mentally masturbate with the nonsense that, oh, I’ll just get over it.

I’ll just get over it. If it doesn’t work out, I’ll just get over it. No, you fucking won’t. You have to live with yourself, and we can lie to others with the slickness. But deep down, you know when you didn’t do your best, and that will eat you alive. And I’m trying to do you a solid right now by yanking that out of you right now.

Let’s get real. What are the exact regrets you are going to have? Because you will pay a price, all right? In this life, not everything works out for us, right? But when you have put everything you have into it, and you actually know that, and you know you didn’t go cheap, you know you didn’t cut fucking corners, then what you can have is some fucking peace.

All right? And I a hundred thousand million gazillion percent believe that a woman who has a desire in her heart to be a mom, it’s there because it’s meant for her and she will find a way. But you won’t be available to find the way if you can keep entertaining the garbage puts you into regret. Where you cut yourself short, you go cheap, you cut corners, and you make fucking excuses.

Okay? And look, you may as well get to this bugger now about regret, then figure out five years from now when your eggs are five years older. Woooo, that’s some truth there, mama. And I love you enough to spew it. So, step two. I want you to identify the exact ways you create a setup for regret, so you can do something smarter.

You know where you’re letting yourself down right now, and you know exactly how you do it. So, name it, so you have a fucking chance to fix it. And look, I am being real with you right now. We all do this, and look, mindset is my fucking world! And we all do it in very different ways, and our subconscious mind and our excuses are fucking insidious.

Which is why it’s so powerful to do this work, right? Like one of the things that I, I was like, man, I used to get on myself so much is I wasn’t going to bed early enough. And then I would ask myself, cause like, I’m the super high producer, like I’m a morning person. And I’d be like, fuck, I don’t want to get up at 5 a.

m. And then I would just, oh, getting up at 5 a. m. is so fucking miserable. But I was doing it to myself. 5 a. m. is not miserable unless you are not getting enough sleep, right? So we set ourselves up for bullshit all the time. And I, then I would regret it. Fuck. I didn’t get this extra thing done. You know, I didn’t feel as good as I wanted to feel, but you know, that’s one.

I mean, and that may be a benign way for you right now, but that I’m just being real with you. Like that is one way that I caught myself setting myself up for regret on multiple levels. Cause not getting enough sleep is no good. So what are the exact ways you set yourself up for regret now? Step three.

This is going to be interesting because I, this is actually visual that I want you to do. So we want to get leverage on your regret pattern. So I want you to be able to drop kick that scary fertility future that is lurking in the back of your mind. So take a moment to close your eyes and really imagine your life five years from now, childless, Partnership or marriage in the shit because you let someone else talk you into giving up and watching others walk by with their strollers.

Okay, and just as a side note, don’t do this like if you’re driving or operating heavy machinery or rollerblading over banana peels. Alright, just wait till you get home or wait till you don’t have divided attention. This is only for women that can do this in this moment. We’re getting leverage on your regret pattern.

Take a moment, close your eyes, really imagine your life five years from now. As I said. Childless partnership or marriage in the shit because you let your partner talk you into giving up and you fucking resent them and you hate everyone around you and you’re watching others walk by with their strollers feel that pain of regret notice where regret lives in your life.

Where do you feel it? Think about all the chances you passed on. All the opportunities you were given and didn’t take. And the times people tried to help you and all you did was make excuses. See yourself with the money you told yourself you’d save, but squandered it trying to numb the pain of how you abandon yourself.

You pay one way or another, baby. You make the investment in the dream, or you pay years later as you try to dull the pain of your regret. Feel it. Feel this pain, and I’m not doing this to be mean to you. I am doing this to help you get some fucking leverage, so you can start making better choices. Feel it.

Feel what it would feel like right now if five years from now not a goddamn thing has changed. Still making the same fucking excuses, still resenting your partner, still resenting your friends. Nothing changed. You have a chance right now to choose the low road or the fucking high road. The low road that your inner punk ass bitch wants you to take, or you can take the high road.

That’s the one where your heart lives. The one where there is no regret. You get to decide here and now, in your mind’s eye, as you’re thinking about all of that regret. Let this linger. Ugh, just feel it in your body. Oh, where does regret live? Where does it look? Where does it live? Where does this image of you five years from now, miserable motherfucker, where does that live?

Let it linger and then fill in the section on your worksheet that is associated with this third step and write what came up for you. What was the truth? Where did you feel that pain? What did that pain feel like? Because the choice is yours. And look, I’m putting this in front of you now, because as of this week, we are headed into the second half of this year, the fucking second half.

And if you are not where you want to be, there is time now to turn it around. You’ve been doing what you knew to do up to this point. And maybe you were trying to get your shit together. That’s awesome. But if you don’t like where you’re at, you can use the second half of this year wisely, and let’s do it together.

Okay? The smartest thing you can do when you aren’t getting the results you want on this journey from your treatments, diets, lotions, and potions Is fucking work on your mindset. Your mindset is the foundation of your success on this journey. It’s a fact. Your mind is literally dictating what you will or won’t do.

The chances you do and don’t take. Thoughts, beliefs, actions, results. It’s logical and linear. You have to get your mind right, mama. I have seen women, in such a shit place, turn this piece of the puzzle around, and boom, okay. You can turn things around, and you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, the doors to my Fearlessly Fertile Full Throttle 90 Day Program will be opening very soon, and I’m super fucking excited to share it with you.

This is a super fun program where you get a daily dose of fearlessly fertile goodness over the course of 90 days. This is material that is not available anywhere else. I appreciate that you might love this podcast and I love you too, baby, but we go about 10, 000 times deeper in this program than we ever could in this podcast.

And this program is super fucking fun. You’re going to get, as I said, a daily dose of fearlessly fertile goodness over the course of 90 days. It is on demand. You choose your pace. But you have one lesson from me every single day. Plus, you’ll have three live group coaching calls with me and women from around the world.

And for those of you that are ready to go to the next level with my signature eight week program, my Fearlessly Fertile Method, that’s for women who intend to get pregnant in the next 12 months, baby, and say hell yes to covering their bases, mind, and body so you don’t have to look back on this time in your life with regret.

And as you’ve heard, and as you’ve seen on this podcast, I work with women that are committed to success. They’re more committed to their success than their fear and their bullshit excuses. To apply for your interview for this program, go to my website, www.FromMaybeToBaby.com and apply for an interview there.

My methodologies help women around the world make their mom dreams come true. Their results speak for themselves. If you don’t have a mindset for success and journey, baby, you gotta get your strategy list, fix that shit. And set you up for success till next time, change your mindset, change your results.

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