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Episode 2: Changes, always there whether or not you are

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Music: “Just A Blip” by Andy G. Cohen From the Free Music Archive Released under a Creative Commons Attribution International License

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https://hbr.org/2012/09/ten-reasons-people-resist-chang

- People generally don't like changes. We all start off at the bottom when we're young, working hard to reach our goals and then; once we're somewhere "remotely" comfortable, we form patterns, get settled in and move into hibernation. And once we've hibernated, god forbid something changes it for us. - After all, as a human; we are by nature lazy. That doesn't mean we don't work hard. We're more than capable of doing that. And we're even willing to grind ourselves into the ground in order to achieve our goals. But, and here's the thing; we believe that the more we progress, the less "real" effort we need to invest. - We're also very prone to extremes, so this means we can be extremely hardworking and/or extremely lazy. With technology, you can even be both! - What does this mean though? That our goals tend to be short-sighted and self-gratifying. Earn x amount of $$$ by the age of y. Pay off my house by the age of x. etc. And any deviations to this would result in a reaction from ourselves. - People talk about growing old gracefully; and there is a reason for this. From a life of action and being able to challenge the world, people have to take a step back; and being able to let go of things. - So, right off the bat; changes will always be there, and we will never be able to avoid it completely. If you're lucky; you'll be able to postpone it, but just like a long-overdue house cleaning; it'll come back with double the interest. - Therefore, similarly to embracing our challenges, we need to learn to embrace change. - Talk about 2nd suicide and how it was due to change and not being able to cope that triggered it. - 2 important ingredients to help you cope with changes, Perspective. Because looking at it from a negative viewpoint will only be self-defeating and pointless. "Be the change that you wish to see" - The 2nd is optimism and hope, rooted in realism. Do your best and as much as you can, but once done; let it go and expect and plan for the worst. Some may counter that you should aim for the stars and you'll get skies/clouds. I say, why even aim at all? Aiming sets expectations; which breeds disappointment and bitterness WHEN (not if) reality kicks in and you fail. - To that end, the best thing you can do to combat change is to change as well. Learn and try new things. Especially when things start to get stale and mundane. Sometimes a change of scenery too could help kickstart things as well. - Remember what we talked about failures, it's all about practise, practise and practise. What will be, will be. - After all, life is all about continuous learning, thus nothing is permanent so one should always stay humble and embrace the change.

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Music: “Just A Blip” by Andy G. Cohen From the Free Music Archive Released under a Creative Commons Attribution International License

Reference reading:

https://hbr.org/2012/09/ten-reasons-people-resist-chang

- People generally don't like changes. We all start off at the bottom when we're young, working hard to reach our goals and then; once we're somewhere "remotely" comfortable, we form patterns, get settled in and move into hibernation. And once we've hibernated, god forbid something changes it for us. - After all, as a human; we are by nature lazy. That doesn't mean we don't work hard. We're more than capable of doing that. And we're even willing to grind ourselves into the ground in order to achieve our goals. But, and here's the thing; we believe that the more we progress, the less "real" effort we need to invest. - We're also very prone to extremes, so this means we can be extremely hardworking and/or extremely lazy. With technology, you can even be both! - What does this mean though? That our goals tend to be short-sighted and self-gratifying. Earn x amount of $$$ by the age of y. Pay off my house by the age of x. etc. And any deviations to this would result in a reaction from ourselves. - People talk about growing old gracefully; and there is a reason for this. From a life of action and being able to challenge the world, people have to take a step back; and being able to let go of things. - So, right off the bat; changes will always be there, and we will never be able to avoid it completely. If you're lucky; you'll be able to postpone it, but just like a long-overdue house cleaning; it'll come back with double the interest. - Therefore, similarly to embracing our challenges, we need to learn to embrace change. - Talk about 2nd suicide and how it was due to change and not being able to cope that triggered it. - 2 important ingredients to help you cope with changes, Perspective. Because looking at it from a negative viewpoint will only be self-defeating and pointless. "Be the change that you wish to see" - The 2nd is optimism and hope, rooted in realism. Do your best and as much as you can, but once done; let it go and expect and plan for the worst. Some may counter that you should aim for the stars and you'll get skies/clouds. I say, why even aim at all? Aiming sets expectations; which breeds disappointment and bitterness WHEN (not if) reality kicks in and you fail. - To that end, the best thing you can do to combat change is to change as well. Learn and try new things. Especially when things start to get stale and mundane. Sometimes a change of scenery too could help kickstart things as well. - Remember what we talked about failures, it's all about practise, practise and practise. What will be, will be. - After all, life is all about continuous learning, thus nothing is permanent so one should always stay humble and embrace the change.

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