15. How to Actually Change: The Messy Truth No One Talks About

Nuance Needed

How exactly do people change? In this episode we dive deep into the messy reality of personal change, sharing Sam's recent cross-country move from Utah to Florida as a launching point to explore how real transformation happens. We discuss our professional and personal experiences with change, challenging the common misconception that change should feel good or comfortable. From Sam's enlightening moment in Kensington Gardens to our collective understanding of the five stages of change, we unpack why the "storm" of emotions - including anxiety, grief, and uncertainty - isn't a sign you're making the wrong choice, but rather evidence that you're doing the necessary work.

We explore why people get stuck in the contemplation phase, constantly gathering data and waiting to feel "ready." Through personal stories and professional insights, we emphasize how change requires sitting with discomfort and learning to trust yourself, even when it feels counterintuitive. The conversation weaves between practical advice and deeper reflections on how societal expectations, especially for women, can keep us from honoring our true needs.

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