Remix: How to dehoard when you're drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care and Domestic Blisters

That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

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Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode!

• Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles
• Definition of "care tasks"
• Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks
• Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help
• Overcoming Shame and Stigma
• Fear and self-criticism
• Importance of self-compassion and supportive community
• Motivation and the limitations of shame
• Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion
• Thriftiness and environmental concerns
• Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation
• Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD
• Differentiating motivation and task initiation
• Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation
• Starting the Decluttering Process
• No one right way to start
• Making small decisions and using timers
• Involving friends in parting with items
• Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering
• Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome
• "5 things theory" to overcome resistance
• Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently
• Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up
• Breaking tasks into smaller steps
• Visual storage ideas and creating rituals
• Setting priorities and challenging societal norms
• Judgments based on work, race, and appearance
• Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs.
• Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change.
• Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all.
• Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change.
• Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained.
• Declutter by what I need, love, keep.
• Motivation leads to easier hard work and decluttering.
• Take small steps and make decisions.
• Break tasks into small steps.
• Community support for navigating vulnerability.
• Many people find online content more helpful than traditional therapy, reflecting societal attitudes towards seeking help.
• Shame and social pressure don't guarantee change.
• Self-help space lacks personalised solutions for diverse challenges. Universal methods don't address individual barriers and needs.
• People give themselves permission to accommodate and it leads to curiosity, not necessarily a finish line.
• Challenges with executive functioning and organisation due to ADHD, struggling with clutter and distractions.
• Sort items by frequency of use, happiness, and necessity. Prioritise what to keep, rather than what to discard.
• Motivation leads to easier wins, declutter by discussing meaningful items with friends.
• Taking small steps without pressure, performing tasks with enjoyable activities.
• Breaking tasks into smaller steps and utilising a simple action to initiate it.