Andrew Tate, Confidence Killers & Getting Out of the Friend Zone

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QUALIFIED: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work with Shari Dunn | 284 33:58

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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Tiny Adults, it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want.

Here’s what we’re covering:

The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you want.
Grief & Healing – Everyone processes grief differently. Here’s how to navigate it in a way that works for you.
Trauma & Your Nervous System – The difference between immobilization and movement during trauma—and how it determines your healing speed.
Breaking Down Trauma Processing – The three key steps: sensing, naming, and identifying.
When You Feel Ugly & Unlovable – My advice to someone struggling with self-worth.
The 4 Confidence Killers – What’s secretly holding you back from the life you want.
Self-Affirmations I Swear By – Plus, a sneak peek into my love-yourself speech.
The Real Key to Self-Love – It’s not what you think.
Does He Like Me? – How to go from the friend zone to something more.
5 Easy Comebacks – What to say when someone’s being rude (because we love a good mic drop).

This episode is packed, so grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, share with your friends, and leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app besties :)

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Andrew Tate, Confidence Killers & Getting Out of the Friend Zone

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

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Here’s what we’re covering:

The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you want.
Grief & Healing – Everyone processes grief differently. Here’s how to navigate it in a way that works for you.
Trauma & Your Nervous System – The difference between immobilization and movement during trauma—and how it determines your healing speed.
Breaking Down Trauma Processing – The three key steps: sensing, naming, and identifying.
When You Feel Ugly & Unlovable – My advice to someone struggling with self-worth.
The 4 Confidence Killers – What’s secretly holding you back from the life you want.
Self-Affirmations I Swear By – Plus, a sneak peek into my love-yourself speech.
The Real Key to Self-Love – It’s not what you think.
Does He Like Me? – How to go from the friend zone to something more.
5 Easy Comebacks – What to say when someone’s being rude (because we love a good mic drop).

This episode is packed, so grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, share with your friends, and leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app besties :)

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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GET HIM OBSESSED - ARIES 22:56

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This March, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aries man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The bold traits that make him irresistible—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Proven strategies to grab his attention and keep him addicted to your energy. 🔥 What lights his fire in a relationship (and what will extinguish it). 🔥 Red flags that show he’s losing interest—and how to reignite the spark. 🔥 How to win him back if he’s pulled away or moved on. Whether you’re trying to attract an Aries, keep up with his fiery personality, or rekindle the passion, this episode is your ultimate guide to handling the zodiac’s boldest lover. Hit play now and make this March all about conquering the heart of an Aries! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

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Andrew Tate, Confidence Killers & Getting Out of the Friend Zone 51:16

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Tiny Adults , it's that time of the month—our second-week Dear Violet episode! But first, a little story time. I just got back from a wild Vegas weekend at UFC, where I had an unexpected run-in with Andrew Tate. Yep, you heard that right. I’ll spill all the details before diving into today’s episode, where we tackle everything from confidence killers to trauma, self-love, and getting what you want. Here’s what we’re covering: The Power of Labels – How to label someone to get exactly what you want. Grief & Healing – Everyone processes grief differently. Here’s how to navigate it in a way that works for you. Trauma & Your Nervous System – The difference between immobilization and movement during trauma—and how it determines your healing speed. Breaking Down Trauma Processing – The three key steps: sensing, naming, and identifying. When You Feel Ugly & Unlovable – My advice to someone struggling with self-worth. The 4 Confidence Killers – What’s secretly holding you back from the life you want. Self-Affirmations I Swear By – Plus, a sneak peek into my love-yourself speech. The Real Key to Self-Love – It’s not what you think. Does He Like Me? – How to go from the friend zone to something more. 5 Easy Comebacks – What to say when someone’s being rude (because we love a good mic drop). This episode is packed, so grab a drink, get comfy, and let’s get into it! Don't forget to subscribe, share with your friends, and leave me a 5 star review on the podcast app besties :) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

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Bad at Skiing, Good at Making Out – My Aspen Chaos 1:01:05

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Pack your bags, Tiny Adults (is this nickname working for you?? Y/N?), because we’re heading to Aspen—where the altitude is high, the skiing is tragic, and the men? Well… some of them are worth the trip. This episode is a rollercoaster of luxury, disaster, and unexpected life lessons. From scoring free designer fits to nearly dying on the slopes, this trip had everything. Buckle up—you're in for a ride. ⏳ TIME STAMPS : [00:00:00] - [00:13:16] ➝ My favourite part of traveling, the perks of flying deaf, and why you should actually appreciate your loved ones. [00:15:04] ➝ That one time my boyfriend low-key hated me, my alleged passion for stealing, and how I learned altitude sickness (much like the female orgasm) isn't a myth. (Wait, wuttt?!) [00:25:58] ➝ Me vs. skiing: a brutal battle for survival. Plus, the lesson I should have learned—and what you should take away instead. ( Cue the existential crisis. ) [00:50:42] ➝ Brazilian men are hot, Bad makeout sessions, and why escaping Aspen is always a sh*t show. Click play for luxury, disaster, and life lessons you didn’t ask for but need! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

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The LET THEM Theory Will Change Your Life 51:55

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BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club —your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier. This episode covers: Why chasing people is a waste of time Why You’re Exhausted Trying to Control People – The #1 mistake we all make when we try to “fix” or “convince” others. (Spoiler: It never works.) How to Stop Taking Things Personally – When someone ghosts, disrespects you, or doesn’t show up the way you want—here’s how to instantly stop giving a f*ck. The Freedom of LETTING THEM – What happens when you stop chasing, stop forcing, and just let people do whatever they want? ( Hint: Your life gets 100x easier. ) Your Energy is YOURS—Take It Back – You don’t need their approval. You don’t need closure. You need to focus on YOURSELF. The Magic of The LET THEM and Let Me Theory – The second you apply this, you’ll start feeling lighter, happier, and completely unbothered. If you’re tired of overthinking, over-explaining, and over-giving—this episode is for YOU. Hit play, and let’s talk about it. 🎧🔥 #LetThem #AlmostAdulting #MelRobbins See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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We Listen and We DO Judge (ft. Laura Clery) 1:30:07

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🚨 Buckle up, tiny adults—this episode is PURE CHAOS. 🚨 I’m joined by the one and only Laura Clery —host of Idiot podcast, author, comedian, and dear friend. Together, we’re spilling the most unhinged, hilarious, and WTF-worthy stories we’ve never dared to say out loud—until now. But you have to PROMISE not to judge. From moving in with a drug dealer she met once, to accidentally ruining a marriage, to getting away with illegal parking, meth (yes, really) , and some other truly questionable life choices. Then, we get serious about life post-divorce, finding yourself again, and the reality of dating after everything falls apart. If you love a mix of absolute chaos and raw honesty , this episode is for you. Tap in NOW. 🎧🔥 #AlmostAdulting #LauraClery #NoRegrets (…okay, some regrets) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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GET HIM OBSESSED - PISCES 20:31

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This February, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Pisces man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The secrets behind his compassionate and mysterious nature—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to captivate his heart and keep him completely hooked. 🔥 What he craves in a partner (and what will make him drift away). 🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to turn things around. 🔥 The best strategies to win him back if you’ve lost his love. Whether you’re crushing on a Pisces, dating one, or trying to rekindle the magic, this episode is your ultimate roadmap to mastering the art of Pisces love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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Why You’re Obsessed with the Wrong People 38:03

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Welcome to Dear Violetta - our monthly series airing every second week of the month! where I answer your toughest questions with the unfiltered advice you need to hear. If you've ever questioned a friendship, obsessed over a ghoster, or felt like you fall too fast in love—then today's episode is for you. Topics Covered: Ending a toxic friendship & signs your friendship is toxic Should you give a guy who ghosted you a second chance? The fastest way to get someone to do what you want (in work, love, & life) First date mistakes: The #1 thing ruining your chances before the relationship even starts "Why are all the men I date cheaters?” (Hint: It’s deeper than you think) Getting attached too fast: The difference between love & emotional attachment The real reason we get swept away SO easily 🎧 Listen now for the tough love you didn’t ask for—but NEED. Make sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode again and share with your friends in that group chat!! trust me, they'll thank you later. :) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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How to Stop Being a F*cking Failure 45:34

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What if I told you happiness isn’t the goal —and most people don’t actually want it? 🤯 That’s why WE secretly keep self-sabotaging. That’s why we stay stuck. But here’s the truth: As corny as it may sound, rock bottom isn’t the end. It’s the launchpad. In this episode, we get real about: Part 1 - 💥 How hitting rock bottom can be your biggest flex (if you know how to use it) 💥 The real reason you keep self-sabotaging (and how to stop) 💥 Why pain is actually part of your success story Part 2 - (24:35:15) 💥 3 pillars of happiness that actually work (because 'just be positive' is BS) 💥 How we begin to unknowingly self sabotage 💥 The 12 psychological ways your brain is holding you back from happiness 💥The secret to living a happy life If you’ve been feeling lost, stuck, or like you’re failing at life—this episode is for you. It’s time to stop playing small and start turning your setbacks into your comeback era. 🔗 Listen now & start your glow-up. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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Are You F*cked Up or Just Traumatized? 55:02

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Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's BBC – Benson Book Club episode is all about trauma, your brain, and why you can’t just ‘get over it-- because Your Body Keeps The Score ;) We’re covering: 🧠 How trauma rewires your brain & nervous system 🚨 Fight, flight, freeze, or dissociation—what’s your response? ⚖️ Why some people heal and others stay stuck in the past ⚠️ The part of trauma where therapy can actually make things worse TIMELINE: 🔑 First 20 min: Brain basics—survival mode & stress responses. 🔥 Midway: How the brain detects danger & why triggers feel automatic. ⚡ 30 min mark (my favourite part!): A deep dive into trigger responses. Trauma isn’t just in your mind— your body keeps score. So, is your brain still in survival mode, or is it finally learning to feel safe? Download this episode and listen now to start your healing journey today. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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GET HIM OBSESSED - AQUARIUS 27:03

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode , dropping the third week of every month! This January, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU . Get ready to uncover: 🔥 The key traits that make Aquarius tick—and how to use them to your advantage. 🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep him coming back for more. 🔥 What he secretly loves (and what will send him running). 🔥 Warning signs he’s pulling away—and how to flip the script fast. 🔥 The art of winning him back if things fall apart. Whether you’re crushing on an Aquarius, dating one, or trying to reignite the spark, this episode has everything you need to turn his world upside down. Don’t just play the game—master it. Hit play now and make this January all about owning the Aquarian heart. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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HOW TO BE CONFIDENT 39:06

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Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we’re breaking down what’s holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence. Spoiler alert: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn, and today I’ll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps. In this episode, we'll unpack: The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers : (4:31) Confidence Killer #1: Caring too much Confidence Killer #2: Your #1 biggest hater Confidence Killer #3: The biggest thief of joy Confidence Killer #4: Your #2 biggest hater I share my own personal story of how I overcame social anxiety , bullying, and self-doubt—and went from invisible to unstoppable. (14:02) The 5 call to action Steps that will change your life : (28:43) Change How You Interpret Feedback Use This Affirmation to Change Your Reality Keep Promises to Yourself Fake It ‘Til You Become It Understand That Everyone’s a Loser You'll learn how to: Silence the voice in your head that tears you down. Stop caring about other people’s opinions (for real this time). Flip the script on rejection and self-doubt. Use affirmations and power poses to build confidence fast. Create an environment that helps you thrive. This episode is your ultimate confidence cheat sheet. Ready to level up? Hit play now! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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I Thought I lost Everything in the L.A. Fires 46:17

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In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into. Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I’m spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I’m sharing everything you didn’t know the LA fires and debunking/confirming the conspiracy theories everyone’s been talking about. Hit play to find out what really went down during the LA/Palisades fires. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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How to Manifest The One on NYE (Plus My 2024 Survival Guide/goodbye) 31:14

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From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a journey . Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the realest advice you'll ever hear if you think they're the one (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step guide to manifesting your dream partner on New Year’s night for 2025. Grab your wine, bestie—it’s reflection and manifestation time. ✨ We will be back on January 16, 2025 with the first episode and a whole new structure. <3 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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Stop Procrastinating - 2 Min Rule 31:02

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Ever wished procrastination was an Olympic sport because you’d definitely win gold? Well, it’s time to change that mindset, one tiny step at a time! In today's episode, we're diving into the genius of the 2-Minute Rule from Atomic Habits by James Clear. Discover how this bite-sized approach to habit-building can turn even the most persistent procrastinator into a productivity powerhouse. Learn from the greats like Twyla Tharp and the biggest procrastinator you know (me!) to transform those daunting tasks into do-able habits. Whether it’s conquering clutter or finally starting that side hustle, you’ll be amazed at how just two minutes can change your life. Ready to become a master of small wins and big gains? Tune in and stop procrastinating today! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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My Husband Won’t Touch Me: 10 Years of No Sex 38:20

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Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome. Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss: Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away. Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let’s dive in and start thriving—together See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .…

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