The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Listen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can begin to overcome your symptoms by accepting who you are, flaws and all. Host Kristen Carder is a dually certified coach who has supported thousands of of people with ADHD worldwide. Kristen's extensive experience working with ADHDers began in 2012, and she now leads a global community of adults w ...
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Katie and Helen answer your questions about narcissism, parentification and emotional abuse. Empowering growth through psychoeducation, breaking the cycle one podcast at a time.
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Semi-normal people discussing God's word, and how it applies to daily life. Rachelle & Carder host a morning show on 89.3 KSBJ in Houston. Anything But Quiet Time is an inside look into what they're learning as they read through the Bible. It's kind of like that conversation that happens when you attend a really cool small group at your church. If it encourages you, please share this podcast with a friend - and don't forget to listen to Rachelle & Carder every weekday morning on 89.3 KSBJ in ...
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own …
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285 Brain Scientist Says, This is The Root Cause Of ADHD
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Dr. Robert Melillo is a clinician, professor, brain researcher, and best-selling author of the book Disconnected Kids. I think you'll find this conversation fascinating. Dr. Melillo challenges the conventional view of ADHD, presenting it not just as a biochemical imbalance, genetic, or underdeveloped prefrontal cortex, but as a developmental imbala…
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282 Misconceptions of Christianity (Part 2)
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More widely held beliefs that aren't actually true when it comes to faith in Jesus. We also bring up one we didn't see eye to eye on: are all people "God's children"?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Suicide Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the s…
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284 Overcoming ADHD Productivity Challenges with Dr. Ari Tuckman
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Psychologist, author, and ADHD expert Dr. Ari Tuckman is here to talk about the unique productivity challenges faced by adults with ADHD. Dr. Tuckman and I discuss how ADHD-related productivity issues go beyond typical procrastination and time management struggles. We cover effective management strategies like proper diagnosis, medication, educatio…
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281 Misconceptions of Christianity (Part 1)
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We talk about 3 widely held beliefs that aren't actually true when it comes to faith in Jesus.
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135. An interview with Maggie Nick
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in wa…
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283 Solo Show! Dr. John Delony's Wrong About This, Answering Listener Questions, and the Latest Research on Trauma & ADHD
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I'm trying out a new solo show style this week, and I hope you love it! I've got a bunch of fun segments for you: First, I tell you all about my trip to Oxford University for a conference on Trauma with some of the biggest names in the industry (Gabor Mate, Bessel van der Kolk, Richard Schwartz, etc). Traveling is always a mixed bag for me - exciti…
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A frustrating, yet relieving conversation as we discuss examples on how WE can't change people. Only God changes hearts. So what do we do in the meantime? We discuss that, along with a story where Carder's patience was tested by his friend's girlfriend.
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Confused by the family dynamics growing up and the blurred lines between parent and child, our guest this week describes a deep need to understand her past before she can fully move forward. She questions whethe…
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282 Navigating Difficult Family of Origin Relationships with Whitney Goodman @sitwithwhit
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Psychotherapist Whitney Goodman is here today to talk about a crucial topic for many of us: navigating family-of-origin relationships as an adult with ADHD. We dive deep into the challenges and complexities neurodivergent individuals face within their families, especially during significant life transitions. Whitney and I discussed how poor communi…
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This week we talk about looking up from our Bible to actually love people. Carder shares a story about how a homeless man called him out. Rachelle shares about something helpful to try when looking in the mirror and you don't like what you see.
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133. Why Can't I Spot a Liar in Front of Me?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) When you've spent your life feeling like you're an 'empath' who's an expert at spotting a lie, what do you do when you can no longer trust your instincts? And is it instinct, or is it trauma? That's the dilemma …
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281 The Bully in Your Brain: How ADHDers Can Quiet Their Inner Critic
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This episode is personal for me. Over the past six months, I’ve explored the ADHDer's inner critic intensively, drawing insights from influential books like “Healing the Shame That Binds You,” “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving,” and “Rethinking Adult ADHD.” While the inner critic isn’t a formal symptom of ADHD, it profoundly impacts those o…
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278 Seeking Islam but Finding Jesus Instead
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We discuss the fascinating story of Nabeel Qureshi, who was a devout Muslim. But through seeking ultimate truth, found Jesus.
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132. Am I Trying To Control Him?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're honoured to have been joined by Matilda live this week, who's asking for help with understanding the dynamic of her relationship, and asks how she can avoid the internal despair she feels at the first sign…
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280 Do I have ADHD? Breaking Down 10 Symptoms & Common Misconceptions
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In this episode we are diving deep into the world of adult ADHD, addressing common misconceptions, and highlighting the unique characteristics that make adult ADHD so distinct. I break down 10 of the symptoms of ADHD and explain in detail how they show up in your daily life. If you think you might have adult ADHD or you want a refresher on what it …
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The humanity and hopeless in a recent Eminem song has made headlines, as his family was hurt by his past mistakes. We talk about the true hope that can be present in any circumstance. Plus, how our worldview makes a huge different in hope level, as Carder responds to some Atheist comments.
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our community is front and centre this week, as we answer YOUR questions! From diagnosing a narcissist to how best to support a sibling, we've loved this opportunity to help our lovely Patrons with the questions…
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279 "I drained my retirement account because of FOMO" How Folks with ADHD Can Stop People-Pleasing with Adrienne Himelright
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Meet my sister, Adrienne Himelright. In this episode, we dive deep into our shared experiences with ADHD and the all-too-familiar challenges of people-pleasing. Adrienne opens up about her struggles, including sharing a story where people-pleasing led her to drain her retirement account. Adrienne coaches people every single day on how to stop peopl…
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The Little Mermaid is a Christian? We have a great discussion about that, along with the hard topic of losing loved ones too soon in life and how God's plan is something we can trust, even when we don't understand it.
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're delighted to be joined by ADHD expert and host of the 'I Have ADHD' podcast Kristen Carder this week as she returns to share her personal story of surviving emotional abuse. We talk about how it feels to b…
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278 You're Allowed to be Messy!! Interview with Stacy Scott
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Stacy Scott is a feng shui practitioner and decluttering expert who has so much wisdom to share about how our environments impact our self-concept and personal growth. You won’t want to miss this transformative conversation! We delve into the influence of childhood experiences on adult behaviors related to clutter. Stacy shares insights on how chao…
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This week it's the common misconception about "being good enough to go to Heaven". Our culture says, "perform and earn" yet God has worked with us differently from the very beginning. Rachelle also brings up a discussion about life goals and dreams and trying to understand what God has planned for us in life.…
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Faith Under Fire: Lessons from the Book of Daniel with Kristen Brewer (Bonus Episode)
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Kristen Brewer is the writer and producer on the Sight & Sound production "Daniel: Live on Stage", and after much research to write for the production, found a lot that we often miss in the "Sunday school" version of Daniel. She shares in depth the hope we can again after just a little context.
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Whether it's because you're no longer fuelling their ego or you're standing up to their manipulative behaviour, being discarded by a narcissist is one of the most devastating things to experience. Originally rel…
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277 Conquering Your Email Inbox and Using ChatGPT for the ADHD Brain with Paula Engebretson
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Join me in welcoming my friend and colleague, Paula Engebretson! In this episode, we dive into productivity strategies, managing emails, and how tools like ChatGPT can make a difference in our daily lives. Paula’s focus on productivity and my passion for personal growth blend perfectly in this engaging and insightful conversation. One of the highli…
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274 What the Bible Says to Do When Your Kids Grow Up
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Stages of life can be so hard to let go of, and with Rachelle's son going to college soon, she provides some tools to help us embrace the next stage.
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128. The Curse Of The People Pleaser (Replay)
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Calling all people pleasers, this one's for you! This week we're replaying one of our community's favourite episodes, originally released back in January 2023. If this episode is a refresher for you, we'd like t…
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276 From Self-Sabotage to Brave Expression: A Conversation with Africa Brooke
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I’m thrilled to share a deeply insightful conversation with my mentor, Africa Brooke. Africa’s latest book, “The Third Perspective,” dives into the complex realms of self-sabotage and censorship, and in our discussion, we unpack the significance of moving beyond binary thinking in today’s society. In this episode, Africa and I explore the evolution…
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273 Battle Ready for What Life Throws at You
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When life throws stuff at us, how do we fight? Ephesians 6 gives us great insight on letting God fight for us. Especially because there is a battle happening that we can't see.
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127. How Do I Work With My Toxic Ex?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mention of childhood illness Stuck in a cycle of breaking up and making up, our listener this week reflects that her upbringing may have led to her missing some red flags in her relationship. But as her pati…
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275 Marriage, ADHD, and Growth: A 20-Year Journey with Kristen and Greg
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I'm celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary with my husband Greg by having him on the podcast today! We’ll be diving into the ups and downs of our relationship, how we’ve navigated the challenges brought on by the early pandemic, and how we’ve grown individually and together over the past two decades. So, grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and …
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272 Is It Possible to Disagree Agreeably?
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We talk about handing the baton to the next generation and that both parties are responsible in that trade off. Also that we can go to God first about anything, even something as simple as a headache; plus a question of our day: do you have the right to speak out on an issue without the lived experience?…
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mentions of physical abuse, disordered eating and cancer With a family unit split down the middle, our listener this week questions why she was punished simply for not being the same as her sister. Each pare…
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274 Understanding Dyslexia (and Breaking Down the Myths) in Neurodivergent Adults
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Dyslexia expert Natalie Brooks joins me today to dive deep into the interplay between ADHD and dyslexia, exploring the importance of recognizing multiple neurodiversities. Natalie shares her personal experiences with dyslexia and sheds light on its overlap with ADHD. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that uncovers the challenges and triump…
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Carder shares this week how he felt he needs to change after reading Ephesians 5, where it discusses "foolish talk" and "crude joking". But then we try to find the line on what an inapropriate joke actually is. Does intent matter? We discuss and would love your thoughts.
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125. Will Family Ever Feel Safe?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: physical abuse, abortion, assault, stalking From reading childhood diaries to mocking her physical appearance, this week's listener was shamed and belittled by her family at every opportunity. Even after rea…
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273 Healing from Dysfunction and Complex PTSD with Adult Child Podcast Host, Andrea Ashley
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Andrea Ashley is the host of the Adult Child podcast. She's blazing the trail in recovering from addiction and Complex PTSD. Andrea and I dive into a heartfelt conversation about the intricate web of ADHD, trauma, dysfunctional families, and Complex PTSD. Andrea shares her powerful personal journey, from growing up in a dysfunctional family to her …
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270 Reaching People Who Don't Care About God
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This week we have a candid conversation about mental health after the storm, not taking "people's word for it" if God says otherwise, social media influencers and what can be the negative side of it, and morals changing in society by the day.
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124. Is This Covert Sexual Abuse?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Sexual abuse, self-harm This week we hear how our listener is coming to the realisation that she may have been subjected to covert sexual abuse at the hands of her parents. Despite being expected to run the …
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272 From Denial to Recognition: Let's Talk About Trauma and ADHD
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For the longest time, I denied having any trauma, but through therapy and a ton of research, I’ve come to realize its significant impact on my life and my ADHD. In today's episode, I discuss what trauma is and provide definitions and resources, especially focusing on Complex PTSD and its links to ADHD. One of the key takeaways is understanding how …
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Carder shares from a seminar with N.T. Wright and explains the importance of both holiness and unity, along with many takeaways from the book of Ephesians.
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) A move back to the family farm soon becomes a nightmare for this week's listener. She describes her demanding mother in law causing a scene at birthday parties, arriving unannounced in a fit of anger and refusin…
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271 The Ex Good Girl: A Recent ADHD Diagnosis, Perimenopause, and How to Stop Avoiding Difficult Conversations with Sara Fisk
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In today’s episode, I’m joined by the woman who trained ME as a coach, the incredible Sara Fisk. Sara helps people pleasers stop avoiding difficult conversations, and let me tell you, we GET INTO IT on this episode. From understanding ADHD symptoms in adulthood to dealing with perimenopause, this conversation covers it all. We also explore the conc…
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268 Staying Focused in a Distracting World
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Rachelle unpacks the fight between Saul & David and how the story reminds us the importance of staying focused. Carder shares how Christians should brace for election season.
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122. What About All The Good Things She's Done For Me?
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Violence To those on the outside, our listener's mother has always been the generous, kind and loving parent that's been unfairly denied access to her precious grandchildren. But dig deeper and there's a lif…
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270 Alcohol Use and ADHD: My Journey and "Local Sober" Approach
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Special shoutout to @adhdwithjennafree on IG for the term 'local sober'. Research shows that people with ADHD are at high risk for alcohol dependence. In this episode, I open up about the struggle of using alcohol as a nightly aid to combat insomnia, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm, only to realize the negative consequences it had on my sleep and …
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When shouldn't we be comfortable with death? Carder also talks about the commands presented in 1 Thessalonians 5 and how they might feel impossible. Rachelle shares about (potentially) the need for pain.
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121. How To Protect Your Children - The Legal Queen, Part 2
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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen joins us on the podcast again this week, this time we're talking about children and grandparents. Do "grandparents' rights" exist? And how can a child be p…
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